How big a part does the handjob play in your relationships or hookups? Is it just a small part of foreplay, or does it rank high in your repertoire? Some men never ask for handjobs, as they just think of it as a lone masturbatory indulgence.
I never really gave the handjob much thought myself, until I met my current partner. He loves them! In fact, I’d say he ranks them as high as a blowjob in terms of satisfaction. That kinda blew my mind, as I didn’t think they were all that special. And some aren’t. It’s what you make of the act that matters.
A recent surgery put me out of commission for intercourse, so the handjob took front and centre for a while. But I was determined to make it a little more special, now that it was a bigger part of our connection. Here’s how I added a little more flavor to the job at hand.
How to Make a Handjob Sexy
1. Get Naked Together
You can get a handjob just about any old place, and that’s part of the allure of such a basic sexual practice. But if you are at home, ask your lover to undress and give you one while naked. She can lie down beside you with her head on your chest while you reach around a cradle her bottom, or she can straddle you, bouncing lightly to jiggle her breasts while rubbing you.
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2. Experiment with Different Lubes
If you don’t have anything, a raw handjob can work, but it’s usually not that comfortable, especially if it takes you a good while to come. There are many different lotions and potions that can add some pizazz to the experience. I like a warming oil that makes my hand glide ever so effortlessly up and down a man’s shaft. If she likes to lick your lolly at the same time, try a flavored lube.
3. Ask Her to Talk Dirty
Sometimes a handjob takes a little longer than she’s up for, and her hand and wrist will get tired. If you want to increase your arousal to speed things up, ask her to talk dirty to you. In my experience, this always ramps up the action. And it doesn’t have to be that much, whatever kind of sexy talk that tickles your fancy. Maybe you want to be told you’re a bad little boy, or maybe you want her to call you Master. Or maybe you just want to talk dirty. Do what works for you.
4. Bring Out the Toys
Why not kink things up to make your pleasure more multi-faceted. You don’t need a treasure trove either. She might just have a bullet vibrator in her night table. Or maybe you’ve got a few plastic cock rings in your underwear drawer. Nothing specific? Grab a scarf and have her blindfold you. Although the visual of watching her is missing, the anticipation of what she might do next is a great replacement.
5. Try Edging or Orgasm Denial
Once you try edging, it’s hard to go back. Edging is bringing a lover to the brink of orgasm and then stopping… then starting up… then stopping. When you know your lover’s body language well, it’s easy to know just when to stop before they come. You can always stop altogether to deny them the pleasure of orgasm, but that’s just mean… or is it? Once you incorporate edging into the mix, you’ll see that there are many ways to experiment with is. You can read more about orgasm denial and orgasm torture at Kink Lovers.
So enjoy your next handjob to the fullest, but don’t forget to return the favor! Give Her a Handjob to Remember.
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