Do you pride yourself on giving great head but wish you could take his whole cock in your mouth?
Deep throat blow jobs are a common fantasy. It’s hot to imagine being taken fully inside a mouth, and it’s hot for the one giving oral sex to drive him that wild.
Full disclosure—I love giving blow jobs. And I’m what you might call a deep throat faker. I do my best and want to go as far as I can, but I’m one of those women with a hyper-sensitive gag reflex, along with about 15% of you. It is said that about a third of people don’t have much of a gag reflex at all. And the rest are in between.
Wherever you are on this spectrum, you can practice relaxing and other techniques to give deeper blow jobs.
What Is Deep Throating?
Deep throat blow jobs, deep throating, or deep throat oral sex means penetration of the oral orifice, or taking the cock into the mouth and down into the throat.
The mouth is a wonderfully versatile tool of lovers, for licking, kissing, and sucking. To penetrate the throat is a profoundly erotic feeling for both giver and receiver.
However, the mouth was not created to swallow a penis. To guard against choking, there is a pharyngeal reflex or laryngeal spasm. This is known colloquially as the “gag reflex.” It is triggered when something touches the roof of the mouth, tonsil area, or entry to the throat.
Some of us have very sensitive gag reflexes, and some don’t. You can consciously take control over your gag reflex if you want to deep throat. If you are sensitive, a sensitive, trusted lover is the best prescription for practicing deep throat techniques.
Some can take the whole cock into their throat for oral sex, and those of you who are like me can still take it further and really enjoy giving a great blow job with some deep throating.
Read: How to Give a Blowjob: Good, Better, and Best
13 Deep Throating Tips
1. Get into a Comfortable Position for Deep Throating
You want to be in a comfortable position. Experiment with angles and positions to find what works best for you. You want to be in control of rhythm of penetration, not “getting fucked” in the face, so to speak, but with him still and you controlling the action.
Unless you are an expert with no gag reflex, forget the idea of him grabbing your head and fucking your mouth! You do the deep throating, at your pace.
Some find a supine position with head on thigh for leisurely deep throating sublime. I prefer sitting on a stool or pillows, with him standing—excellent for the long haul. I also find both of us sitting and me bending over is a great angle for me. Find your comfy place.
Read: 5 Fun Blowjob Positions
2. Work Your Way Deeper Slowly
Some women practice by poking around with a toothbrush. A realistic size dildo is better if you want to experiment that way. I personally prefer to work on the real thing, with a loving and relaxed partner. Go slow and take it a little deeper with each stroke. Don’t panic. Relax.
Read: Slow Sex: 5 Tips for Slow Passionate Sex
3. Relax Your Mouth and Facial Muscles
Go into a blissful, relaxed zone and relax your mouth and face. Take it inch by inch. Don’t force anything. Try it out for love and your own erotic pleasure at your pace, with a relaxed jaw.
4. Stimulate the Whole Penis
Use your hands, lips, cheeks, tongue, breasts, in between deep throat attempts and during. Take a break from your mouth and sweep him with your hair or titties. Pull up and down with your hands. Breathe, stretch your mouth, and stimulate his cock with your whole arsenal.
No man in his right mind will complain, and your pleasure should be his priority even as you are pleasuring him!
Read: How to Make a Guy Cum Harder and Faster
5. Look Him in the Eyes
Amp things up during deep throat or regular oral by gazing up with those porn eyes. Works wonders. He’ll swear it’s all the way in even if it’s just on the tip of your tongue!
6. Let Things Get Sloppy
Use water nearby if your saliva is limited. You want a moist, sloppy mouth, not a dry mouth.
7. Consider Adding Lube
Add edible lube to your lips and to his cock to keep things even moister.
Read: 8 Ways to Use Lube and Improve Your Sex Life
8. Get a Rhythm Going
A rhythm that you control helps you deep throat because you relax knowing you will release him, take him, release him. That rhythm is also very stimulating for him.
9. Keep Breathing
Breathe deeply with each stroke. Use yoga breathing techniques if you are familiar with them, to relax. Try counting—to three, or to ten, whatever you’ve got, and use breath work while you deep throat him.
10. Use Your Hands when You Need a Break
Let your fingers do the walking when you need to catch your breath or relax your jaw.
Read: 6 Handjob Techniques and Practices that Will Blow His Mind
11. Look and Ask for Feedback
The best deep throat feels like a two-way street. You want to deep throat for his pleasure, so ask for feedback or read his grunts and groans accordingly. He wants you to be comfortable and turned on too, so he’ll want to share where he’s at and know where you are as well.
Read: Blowjob Etiquette for Men
12. Discuss Spit or Swallow Preferences in Advance
The added burst of forceful ejaculation can interrupt your deep throat relaxation or trigger your gag reflex. This can be sheer physics, the pressure from a volcano so to speak. Many couples are non-monogamous and aren’t exchanging fluids.
Read: Blowjobs: Spit or Swallow?
13. Don’t Do Anything You Don’t Enjoy
Deep throating is one of thousands of erotic options for pleasure and play, and if it isn’t something you enjoy as much as he does, forget it. You don’t need deep throating to give a great blow job.
Deep throating is something many people enjoy performing, and many don’t or find they can’t do it without pain or discomfort.
Deep throating might be something you only enjoy with a specific partner, or something you try a few times and is not part of your repertoire. Whether you try deep throating or enjoy it regularly depends entirely on your turn-ons.
Read: Men’s Biggest Sexual Turn-Ons
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