When you find someone you click with in bed, it’s natural to want to sleep with them again. But what if they don’t share your enthusiasm?
It can be frustrating and confusing when the woman you were seeing stops returning your calls and texts. You might wonder what the hell happened? Here are some possible answers.
You Came on Too Strong
There’s a fine line between confidently expressing your desire and being pushy. If you make it clear that you want to sleep with a woman and she says no, you need to respect her boundaries and not pursue things any further.
Too many guys feel the need to keep at it, either by sending steamy texts or even by getting physical at the wrong time. You might think that persistence pays off, but really it just makes you seem desperate and disrespectful. Let her come to you. If she doesn’t, move on.
She’s Not Feeling Sexy
Her reasons for not wanting to get down tonight could have nothing at all to do with you! Maybe she’s got a yeast infection, or she’s stressed out from work. Maybe she’s on an anti-depressant that’s killed her ability to get aroused, or she’s still sore from your last fuckfest.
Don’t sssume that she’s closed the book on sex with you forever. If you don’t know her that well, she might not feel comfortable enough to spell out her reasons in detail. As mentioned above, let her resume things in her own time.
You Didn’t Reciprocate Last Time
If she doesn’t get back to you, it might be due to the fact that you’re a selfish lover. Most women want to cum, and what better way to make that happen than with oral? If she gave you a blowjob and you didn’t reciprocate by going down on her, she might not feel that excited about the prospect of another one-sided hookup.
If you’re not into giving oral, that’s totally fine, just don’t expect her to blow you anyway. Because oral is so expected, it’s best to tell her straight out if you’re not a fan of it. If you bring other skills into play, she might not even miss it.
She’s Not that Attracted to You
It might seem harsh, but sometimes that’s just the way it is. If she hasn’t come right out and told you that she’s not attracted, it could be because she’s afraid of hurting your feelings. Don’t think that her politeness means that she’s interested in seeing you again.
If she is hesitant to set up another date, she doesn’t get back to you within a reasonable time, or she flinches when you touch her, she’s probably not feeling the chemistry.
She’s Too Attracted to You
On the other hand, she might be too into you. If you met with the intention of starting a casual fuck-buddy routine, it’s possible that after your first date, she’s concerned about developing feelings. If you made it known that you’re not looking for anything serious, she might not think it’s even worth telling you where she’s at with things.
If there’s one thing you should take away from this post, it’s that no amount of pressure on your end is going to make her come to you. You’ve got to either relax and wait, or find a new lady to fuck.