Are you feeling lonely and horny, wondering how to find a booty call? You’re not alone, and hopefully won’t be soon!
What Is a Booty Call?
A booty call is any kind of sexual rendezvous or hookup that is arranged through a phone call or text or online message. Both parties of a booty call are looking for one thing: sex.
Booty-call sex could be a quickie in a public area, something a bit longer, or an all-night hookup. Feelings and romance are not seen as part of a booty call, but things can always get complicated when sex happens between two people.
A booty call may occur between total strangers, acquaintances, or two people who have known each other for years or even been in a previous relationship.
Booty calls can be one-off affairs or they can be part of an arrangement between two lovers wherein both people can either initiate a booty call or respond when the mood strikes.
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5 Ways to Find a Booty Call
1. Friends with Benefits
A friend with benefits is a good thing to have because the sex is there when you need it, or almost always there.
Often this kind of arrangement begins with a hookup where the sex is so good that both lovers don’t want to give it up, yet neither person sees the other as serious or long-term relationship material. And why should you? Good compatible sex is hard to find!
If neither of you are looking for anything heavy, relationship-wise, then friends with benefits makes sense.
You never have to feel bad about making a booty call with a friend with benefits, as the arrangement is clear and likely has some ground rules in place, resulting in a no-harm no-foul approach to booty calls made.
Read: Rules for Friends with Benefits Relationships
2. Ask an Ex
Almost every ex I’ve ever had has reached out for a booty call at least once. And, yes, I’ve given into more than a few. This is why it’s always best to leave every relationship, as much as possible, on good terms… because you never know.
The first rule of making a booty call to an ex, is to think about your chances.
If you hurt this person, don’t do it. If they are in a relationship, don’t do it. But if you know they’re single and you both enjoyed the sex you once had, then rolling the dice can’t hurt, as long as your ego can handle the rejection.
Whether you get a flat-out no or zero response, never follow-up and always move on.
Read: How to Hook Up with an Ex
3. The Online Booty Call
Perhaps the best way to find a booty call is online because it takes the least amount of effort and isn’t as crushing as asking someone you know for sex and being turned down.
Many dating sites and apps are designed primarily for booty-call sex. The hookup culture we live in celebrates casual sex with less judgement than days of old.
Read: Best Casual Hookup Dating Sites
Join a casual sex dating site, or two or three, and make connections. Lots of booty calls are made through direct messages right on these sites and their apps. It may take a little patience and perseverance to find your booty call babes, but they’re out there.
Women enjoy casual sex hookups, strings-free, just as much as you. Hell, we like to make those booty calls ourselves! If you like a female dominant—femdom— then you might want your number in her Little Black Book of Booty Calls.
Read: How to Find Femdom Hookups
4. Casual Hookups
Casual hookups are a perfect way to find booty calls. A lot of hookups are just for one night because neither one of you wants a relationship. But if the sex is good, why not hook up again via a booty call.
The casual sex booty call is not quite the same as a friend with benefits because you want to keep it strictly about sex. You may not even know a casual hookup’s last name, and you certainly don’t want to hear about their work struggles or family problems. But you do want sex!
Like reaching out to an ex for sex, there’s no harm in trying. Because your connection is super casual and you likely don’t know what’s going on in their world at all, there’s no guarantees, but it’s also a lot easier to deal with rejection.
Read: How to Handle Sexual Rejection
5. Booty Call Your Crush
Making a booty call to a crush, you’ll already need to have their number. At least that’s how it was when I was young! You can slide into DMs or send a social media message in private, but you need to be more mindful in your approach.
Is your crush someone you work with where a rejection could cost you your job? Is your crush a professor who could charge you with harassment or kick you out of the school? Know when to keep your crush a crush, and when to make a leap-of-faith booty call.
Do a risk-reward assessment before you booty call your crush for the best results, sex or no sex.
Read: Asking Your Crush on a Date
How to Ask for a Booty Call
You want sex and you’ve decided to send a booty call out, but what does that look like? How you ask depends on the nature of the relationship you already have.
If it’s a friend with benefits, it may be a simple “What’s up?” at two in the morning on a Saturday. They’ll be able to read between the lines and either jump in their car to answer the call or ignore you because they’re busy or sleeping. You may even have a secret code word that translates to “Want sex?”
A casual hookup doesn’t require much more than a straight-forward ask because sex is already the basis of your relationship. And anyone you only know from back-and-forth online messaging doesn’t need more than a “What are you doing tonight?” or an even more direct “Want to hook up tonight?”
Read: Can I Just Call or Text a Woman for Sex?
The delicacy in asking for a booty call happens when you are calling an ex or a crush or someone you may want more than just sex with down the line. There needs to be more respect and gratitude.
You don’t want to beat around the bush too much, but you can ask how they’ve been first or even temper your ask with something like, “I know we haven’t talked in a while…” or “This may seem out of left field, but I had to ask…”
As long as you go in without any expectations and remain respectful in your ask, they shouldn’t feel offended either way.
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