Q: Dear Holly. I don’t have a ton of experience with women, but I’m hoping that will improve now that I’m away from home and at college. The problem is that I’m more attracted to older women, ladies my teachers’ ages. I find most of my co-eds flaky and not very nice to be honest.
My best friend says my thing for mature women is because I lost my virginity to a woman ten years older. Does that really matter? Should I be dating girls my own age? Where can I find older women who would be interested in younger men? – Scottie
A: Hi Scottie! As a cougar myself, I love to hear from younger men who appreciate us older ladies. I get it, and so do thousands of other women my age who seek out cubs to satisfy their needs, sexual and otherwise.
Your attraction to older women probably does stem from your first time, but there’s nothing wrong with that. A cougar has a lot to offer, especially when it comes to teaching a man about a woman’s body and sex. All men should be so lucky. It’s a much better way to learn than watching porn.
If you meet a girl your age and feel a connection, go for it. I think we learn from every relationship. And hey, becoming a great lover takes practice.
Meeting older women shouldn’t be so difficult, as there are plenty of mature women who date nothing but younger men. And maybe some of your teachers do love cubs, but don’t go that route. Your education is more important than some hot fling that could ruin your reputation, and hers.
Try off-campus bars and bring your best friend who knows your type. If you find it hard to flirt with or approach women, I recommend online dating. You can go at the pace you want and even join a niche dating site for meeting older women like MatureKiss.com. You’ll have direct access to thousands of older women hoping to meet a cub like yourself.
Go get ’em tiger!
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