Some men and some women can orgasm from nipple stimulation alone—all the time, or some of the time.
Can you have a nipple orgasm? Do you know? Even if you can’t, it can be incredibly enjoyable to try it out now and again.
Putting the focus on breasts and nipples can prolong foreplay, increase arousal, add variety, and lead to new explorations and adventures. There are even kinks and fetishes centered on breast play and nipple torture, complete with paraphernalia like nipple clamps and artistic breast bondage. You don’t have to be into anything in particular to enjoy playful experiments to see where they go.
What to Know about Nipple Orgasms
Nipple orgasms are genderless.
Some men get rock hard when a nipple is brushed. Some trans women prefer breast stimulation to genital play. Some cis women prefer less breast stimulation, perhaps before menstruation when hormones can make them heavy and painful.
Whoever you are, your response to nipple play will vary from time to time. You might not be aware that you can nipple orgasm from stimulation alone, or you might assume your nipples aren’t that sensitive—but you may surprise yourself.
Explore breast play and nipple stimulation without unrealistic expectations.
Don’t expect a wild orgasm three seconds after her tongue touches your nipple. Enter the erotic mindset playfully, with an open mind, not with the goal of nipple orgasm or bust. Enjoy the exchange for everything in it—touching, talking, pleasuring each other.
Read: Sensual Breast Play Ideas
Take your time, and be patient.
Intense arousal is something that builds and builds, especially for women. Don’t just grope for it and expect a screaming climax. Start building arousal together in all the usual ways. Make out, touch, tease, erotic conversation, and whatever else gets you going.
Focus the sex on the nipples.
Genitals are not out of bounds, but you will want to incorporate more breast and nipple play before going there, during genital stimulation, as well as going back to the nipples.
See Kink Lovers’ article: Types of Nipple Play
Experiment with a variety of sensations.
Nipple play can start off very subtle and become very intense. They don’t call it “nipple torture” for nothing. Not everyone wants to take it to that level, but exploring a variety of touches is key.
You can use different strokes—feathery fingertip brushes, massaging, light slapping, pinching, and twisting. You can try out textures with silk, terrycloth, cotton, or leather. You can sip, suck, lick, blow, and bite. You can try temperature play with ice, heat packs, or warming oils and lubes. You can try a vibrator. If all of that is a go, you can explore nipple clamps and other toys.
Read: Sensation Play Ideas for Kinky Couples
Don’t assume it will never happen if you don’t have a nipple orgasm on first try.
Nipple orgasms are possible but don’t happen to everyone. They aren’t better or worse than other kinds of orgasms, and trying to force it out of frustration isn’t fun. But they are possible. Having an open mind, staying playful and positive, and not responding with disappointment but enjoying the erotic sensations in and of themselves are your best bets.
You may surprise yourself on your fifth attempt. A woman I know started having breast orgasms in her 50s, not for lack of trying before that. One of my male lovers suffers from premature ejaculation, but only when I touch his nipples when he enters me. All of these scenarios are normal, so enjoy the ride you’ve got and keep playing to see what changes.
How do nipples, yours and hers, factor into your orgasms? Please share in the comments!
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