Everyone exaggerates on a dating profile or job application—we all know it. We omit the worst and highlight the best. After all, the whole truth and nothing but the truth is no one’s business.
While I always encourage honesty as the best policy, that simply doesn’t mean you should show your least flattering photograph or itemize the ways you got into trouble when you were fifteen. No one owes a stranger all their naked secrets!
Even so, you want to be aware of the things people lie about. Here are three common lies women tell in their hookup profiles.
Women too often fear that a number makes them seem over the hill. Sadly, that’s from experience. They know a lower number gets them more dates, even though the picture and profile are the same.
My verdict on this one is: whatever if someone’s looking for casual dating and hookups. So long as the picture is reasonably accurate, that will tell you more about her than a number will. This little white lie is so classic and so pervasive that you can pretty much expect it, and don’t need to make a big deal about it in a hookup-site profile.
On the other hand, I still tell women to consider putting down the real number. After all, don’t we really want someone who’s looking for what we have, even if it’s just a one night stand?
What if a wonderful man doesn’t call because he’d rather have a fling with someone his own age? What if a hot nineteen-year-old mechanic is looking to fulfill his fantasy of hot sex with an older woman, and she’s posted a generic 33 instead of the truth?
Weight or Body Type
All women routinely knock off ten to twenty pounds, or opt to list average over full figure. Even if we love what we see in the mirror, we don’t like the sound of the number or label. It’s foolish but we do it anyhow.
The funny thing is, the vast majority of men prefer women quite a bit meatier than women fancy they do. The average women’s fashion model and the average men’s symbol are usually forty pounds apart. Many more men don’t care at all—you’re curious about all kinds of naked women, and prefer us naked and imperfect to sitting around at home NOT having sex.
But women simply can’t be moved on this one. Assume that most women have fudged the truth a little, and go by the pictures.
If you don’t care one way or another, don’t sweat it. If you have a strong preference for BBW, make sure you let your potential hookup know so she can come clean!
Marital or Relationship Status
Women will seldom confess to being in a relationship or marriage if they’re seeking casual encounters. Just like you guys usually don’t volunteer that you’ve been happily married for thirty years if you’re looking for a friend for sex.
Unless someone is posting a profile seeking a long-term relationship, I actually say it’s none of anyone’s business, and bringing attention to a marriage status might cause unnecessary conflict. You don’t know my reasons for looking for a little something on the side, and I don’t know yours.
It’s just something to keep in mind if you’re really looking for love or something more serious. She might not be free, so if she won’t return your messages, don’t assume it’s because you did something wrong. She may have simply meant “one night only” or “I’ll call you” when she said it.