You love watching her pleasure herself—there’s nothing like seeing her get lost and showing you her moves. But what about giving her a private peep show with you as the star?
It can be exciting for both of you if you masturbate in front of her. Here’s what you need to know.
Tips for Masturbating In Front of Your Lover
Let her in on your intentions.
“I came back to bed after a quick freshening up, and my date was going to town on himself. I wasn’t sure how to react. I felt like I wasn’t enough for him. I didn’t know he wanted to perform for me—I thought he was ‘catching up’ while I was in the shower.” – Stephie, 23
You don’t want mixed messages or failed signals. If you suddenly start jerking off, it can be hard to interpret what’s going on. We expect you to grab hold of your cock and rub it during sex—it’s hot—but don’t surprise her with a one-man show without context, or she might think you’re not satisfied.
Wait for her to ask to watch.
Even better than making your intentions known, is her asking you.
You can gauge her curiosity by asking if she’d like to see you or watch you do anything. Or after asking her to show you her moves, she might ask you for yours.
Let her know she’s the feature attraction.
Even though you’re starring in her one-man fantasy, during sex it takes two to tango and you are not alone. Keep your eyes on her while you show her how you like to be touched. Let her know her attention excites you, and encourage her to respond by masturbating or touching you while she watches.
Understand the motive or objective.
If you are familiar lovers or have already shared a range of adventures, the big reveal won’t be a big deal. But if you’re newly acquainted or just starting to explore the erotic spectrum, you’ll want to understand each other in order to know how to proceed.
Is masturbating for her about fooling around and having fun? Or does she have a serious voyeuristic streak? Is it all about knowing what kind of strokes work best when it’s her turn? Or is her request kink-driven and she wants to tell you what to do?
Different circumstances and goals mean a different approach. If she’s turned on by taboo and watching, you might want to have her spy on you through a window when you’re home alone. If it’s all about finding the right way to touch you, you’ll both want a hands-on version of the show.
Masturbate together apart for long-distance hookups.
Showing off your horniness and watching you take it home can be exciting for both of you. It’s also a great way to play when you’re far away, in lockdown, or can’t be together for whatever reason.
Let her get you off.
Whether she’s there in person, watching the action, or you’re making long-distance love, if she wants to take the reins, experiment with talking dirty together or her leading the way. Let her know her wish is your command.
Enjoy the safest sex.
Couples can get creative when the risk is high. If one of you is sick or has an STI, playing together apart is a great way to keep things heated up and safe at the same time.
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