We all know how important it is to practice safe sex. A condom is non-negotiable, especially when it comes to casual hookups, but what if you’re a guy whose penis malfunctions as soon as you rip open the wrapper? It happens.
If you’re not twenty anymore or you’re coming out of a long-term monogamous relationship where you went without a condom most of the time, it can be especially challenging to get used to wearing one.
Here are a few suggestions to help you out.
Make Sure You Have the Right Fit
Most condoms come in a standard, mid-range size, and while they accommodate the majority of cocks, yours might be special enough to require something different.
Condoms should be tight fitting (obviously) but they shouldn’t cut off your circulation. Not only is it uncomfortable, but it also affects your ability to get hard. (Blood needs to flow in order for an erection to occur!) Try a magnum or large-sized condom and you should notice a difference.
Practice Masturbating with a Condom On
Get used to wearing a condom while you’re having a little alone time with yourself. This will help things feel more natural when it comes time for the real deal.
You can experiment with your technique with different pressures and strokes. Practice putting it on without the pressure of having to preform for your partner. I’m not saying you should use one every time you jack off, just on occasion until you get used to it.
Use Flavored Condoms for Oral Sex
It’s always best to use a condom for oral sex anyway, as STDs and STIs can spread by way of genital to mouth. A flavored condom will make it way more enjoyable for your partner to spend lots time going down on you and getting your cock used to the sensation.
It’s all about practice and getting you to a place where you hardly notice the condom at all. You might even find it helps you to last longer, which is always a bonus!
Ask Her to Put it On You
If you find yourself going soft as soon as you turn your attention towards unwrapping the condom and putting it on, ask your girlfriend to do it for you. She can incorporate it into a handjob (or blowjob if she’s adventurous enough).
You might find that by keeping up your momentum you can maintain your erection much more easily and that might be all it takes to carry things through once the condom is on. Once you have a few successful goes of it, you should find it easier and more natural.
Opt For a Female Condom
Yes, these do exist. They are a little more expensive and much more difficult to put on, but they could be a good solution for you if you just can’t perform otherwise. Obviously you’ll want to talk to your partner to see how she feels about wearing one and if she has any sensitivities.
The original female condom is made of polyurethane but there is a newer less expensive kind that has recently come on the market, and it’s made from something called nitrile. Do your research and find the one that works for the two of you, because bareback isn’t a safe option.