There are times when sex is on your mind, but actually hooking up in real time is unwise, unhealthy, or impossible.
Maybe your girlfriend is away on business and won’t be back until summer. Maybe she’s out of commission because she’s menstruating or has a cold. Maybe you have a nasty herpes flare up and can’t get out there right now. Or maybe you are waiting until you meet someone compatible.
There are a million reasons why someone might not be able to have sex—they’re in quarantine, they’re contagious, they’re in jail, their mother is staying over.
But you’re horny, so what now?
How to Feel Sexy when You’re Alone
Appreciate Past Lovers
It’s easy to take things for granted when they’re in abundant supply. In leaner times, it’s a really great chance to be thankful and find gratitude for the sexual connections we enjoy.
Why not express yourself? A few winters ago, I had a long bout with a bad flu. I was out of circulation for a few months because I just couldn’t kick it. One night, feeling sorry for myself, and missing some good times I’d had, I sent out a few texts. Nothing explicit—just thanked some sexy men and women I’d romped with for the chance to get together with them.
It was a good move—several invited me on a future date when I was up and at ’em!
Take Advantage of Solitude
While you might miss some stand-out features of hot and horny weekends, NOT having sex can free up a lot of time.
I rank sex pretty much at the top in order of importance. But there are lots of other important things that get the short end of the stick. Not nearly as hot, but necessary, things like cleaning the garage, organizing the closets, painting the house. Family. Friends. Reading. Taking a course. There are a million important things to do, and making good use of your time is sexy.
Fly Solo
You probably won’t forget to masturbate. But you might think of it as a last resort or something embarrassing and not as good—something not real.
If you can’t have sex with anyone else, you can have sex with yourself.
It’s safe sex. Enjoy it. There are many reasons to masturbate more.
Send Sexts
If you and your lady friend are miles apart, or keeping your distance because of a pandemic or something, have fun with racy text messages. It can brighten your mood and give a delicious feeling of longing and anticipation to your time apart.
Rediscover Phone Sex
Before the Internet had so much free porn, before text messages and online dating, phone sex was a thing.
You could dial a hottie for a price, or you and a horny date could talk dirty late into the night.
It’s probably been a long time since you talked dirty one on one and not through text or online messages. That means it’s going to be awkward and delicious. Enjoy!
Watch Webcam Women
You can talk dirty, or get naked, over video messaging services. Masturbate while watch or chat. This can keep your spirits up while providing a feeling of intimacy when it’s not really possible.
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