Whether you’d like to peg someone, or learn how to prepare and be on the receiving end, these pegging tips will get you there.
As you probably have already discovered, the anal orifice, inside and out, is incredibly sensitive and responds pleasurably to stimulation. While anal play solo or with a partner feels fantastic, the ultimate may be pegging. For many guys, just the idea of a woman fucking him is enough to make him explode.
Receiving anal penetration from a cisgender female in the active role can be sweet and affectionate, rough and raunchy, a kinky part of a submission fantasy, or just feel good on its own terms.
Pegging is a common fantasy, too. It can be exciting for her to take the reins and dominate you. But it’s not just a domination thing.
Penetration is exciting. Anal sex is exciting. Just as it turns you on to play with her ass, she may be turned on by doing it to you. She may be excited by the chance to give you so much pleasure. The taboo itself can be powerful and make pegging hot for her- and you, too.
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If you’ve been curious about how to have strapon sex, how to prepare for pegging, or how to peg your partner, here’s everything beginners will need to know.
How to Prepare for Pegging
How do you prepare for pegging? It’s easy. The most important thing is to relax. The more you can practice relaxing—your mind and your ass—the easier pegging will be.
Preparing for pegging includes having an intimate discussion with your sex partner. Talk about your fantasies and your anxieties. Iron out any boundaries and expectations.
When preparing for pegging, use a small-sized butt plug and pick a few sizes of dildos, along with a harness that fits her and fits the toys.
Always use flared dildos when it comes to anal penetration. Regular dildos won’t work in the harness, but it’s also essential because your ass may try to suck them in. The flare prevents them from getting swallowed by your butt!
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You’ll want to shower thoroughly. Some people prepare for pegging with an enema. This is unnecessary—we all know where we are going when we peg or get pegged, and taking a good shower is sufficient. Use a dark towel underneath you and have some on hand, along with wet wipes or a warm washcloth, to tidy up any stray streaks that show up.
Remember, bacteria are invisible, so proceed with caution even if you don’t “see” any fecal matter. Do not use toys that have touched your ass in a pussy, and always wash yours and her hands if they are touching your ass and then touching anything else.
She can use a condom on the toy. This can help relieve any anxiety you have about possible mess or bacteria because it can be easily discarded.
Have lots of lube on hand—possibly the most important step when you prepare for pegging!
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How to Peg Someone
How do you actually peg someone?
You’ll wear a strap-on dildo in a harness. It can take some practice to wield a cock, but enjoy the ride. Use your hand to guide the toy and make sure you read his hips as well as his lips—don’t go too fast, and always stop or retreat when he asks you to.
Use lots of lube—put it on the head of the dildo and in the crack of his ass, and replenish the lube regularly.
Say some dirty words or describe what you’re doing to keep him turned on and work through any trepidation. You can play with his cock as well to help him relax.
How to Get Pegged
When preparing to get pegged, anticipate that it might be several sessions rather than a one-off, if possible. If you’re too tense or feel rushed, it will be painful—and it shouldn’t be. Think about starting off slowly and warming up over a few sessions.
Engage in anal stimulation with fingers or a small butt plug to warm up. If the strap-on dildo doesn’t go in, or hurts, stop, and continue with small toys until next time.
Relaxing is very important. You can practice anal stimulation solo in advance while jerking off, to get used to the sensation.
When things get started, and you’re ready to get pegged, you’ll want to reach a highly aroused state rather than a highly anxious one. Fool around and enjoy sex play as you usually would. Proceed to pegging when you are very excited.
Get comfortable on all fours—you can support yourself with several pillows. You or your partner can play with your cock while she prepares to peg you with the strap-on dildo.
Start with a smaller dildo at first, even if you hope for a huge cock in your ass.
Use a lot of lubrication. Silicone or mixed silicone and water-based lubricants are probably best. Put lube on your ass hole and on the end of her strap-on dildo.
Make sure she enters slowly. Once your ass gets used to being open, it will relax. Breathe through any pain, and focus on the pleasure and intensity of being filled up.
Push your hips back towards her, to meet her cock, rather than instinctively moving away. The more proactive you are at first, the easier it is to take that cock.
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