Do you think your blowjob skills are less than average? Do you crave to be the queen of cum? Do you want to give a blowjob that will blow his mind and forget every blowjob that came before?
These are some great goals if you ask me. Having mad skills when it comes to giving a blowjob will set any woman apart.
Most men LOVE a good blowjob and appreciate the women who love giving them!
As a woman who is super confident in her blowjob skills and who has decades of experience giving them, I am delighted to share my tips to help any woman who wants to improve her skills and give the best blowjob she can give. Let’s get started!
The Basics of Giving a Blowjob
First off, not all women like giving blowjobs, and that’s okay—this advice is not for them. To each his or her or their own applies to all facets of sexual practice.
The basic blowjob entails wrapping your lips around a man’s cock. What you do from there is up to you. You can move your head up and down, lick or suck the shaft or tip. It’s all about playing around with what you’ve got.
Just as men have signature moves when it comes to oral sex, some women will have favorite techniques that work for them with most men, that they go back to time and time again. But don’t forget to see each man and his member as individuals—what worked on your last lover, may not work on your new guy.
Being able to give an amazing blowjob is like getting good at anything—practice makes perfect! You might be practicing with a long-term partner or you may be a woman who enjoys casual sex on the regular. Both situations work!
5 Tips for Better Blowjobs
1. Take Your Time
If you’re a woman, then you know what it’s like to have a man go down and up before you feel anything. Oral sex is not a quickie—it takes time and effort. If you’re not willing or have the time to settle in, there’s almost no point.
It’s not about getting him hard, because he’ll likely already be hard before you get down there. It’s about raising that arousal to new heights and maybe more, depending where the orgasm goalpost is.
2. Use Your Hands
You can just lean over and act like you’re bobbing for apples at the county fair, or you can control things with the use of one or two hands.
Every type of touch is a new sensation for your lover to feel. Vary what he feels with your warm wet mouth to your soft supple hands.
Read: What NOT to Do while Getting a Blowjob
3. Adjust Rhythm and Speed and Pressure
If you haven’t given a lot of blowjobs, this is one of the first things you will learn. Going at the same speed, with the same pressure is boring and too much like masturbation.
The best way to know when and how to adjust is to watch for body signal cues, but don’t be afraid to experiment with switching things up. Most men will just tell you if something is too fast or too hard. And you can always ask.
Read: Blowjob Etiquette for Men
4. Practice Orgasm Denial
Some people see orgasm denial as a kink, but to me it’s just part of giving a good blowjob. When you sense that your lover is at the edge of orgasm, stop. Say something dirty or use your hands for a bit… then put your mouth back on when he’s come down a notch.
5. Make Eye Contact
In porn scenes, the woman is often on her knees, looking up dutifully at the guy with his pants around his ankles. The visual of a woman with his dick in her mouth is extremely hot for most guys, so indulge him, even if you think it’s cheesy. And it can be on the bed if the floor routine isn’t your thing.
5 Advanced Blowjob Techniques
1. Go All the Way
Who says intercourse needs to be a part of the action. Oral can be the main course, with ejaculation the goal. And you can stay fully dressed while he is in a vulnerable position with his dick hanging out. This works nicely for femdom play.
Read: Blowjob Scenes for Kinky Lovers
2. Make Cum Part of the Play
Some men are really impressed when a woman swallows. I don’t know why exactly (maybe because most don’t), but it’s an easy way to satisfy him if you don’t mind the taste.
If one of you has a cum fetish, you can use it for cum swapping or tasty culinary delights.
Read: Cum Kink: What It Is and Ways to Play
3. Add Toys and Temperature Play
Try adding toys to the mix for extra pleasure. Maybe you want to tie him up while you go down, or plug his butt at the same time. I like to suck on ice cubes before sucking, then pause to run my bullet vibrator up and down in between.
4. Do It in 69 Position
Why not get your rocks off at the same time? I love a good double oral session—there’s just nothing like focusing on your partner’s pleasure while trying not to come yourself! Please try this if you haven’t already.
Read: 5 Fun Blowjob Positions
5. Mix in a Footjob
Mixing and matching kinks is part of the fun when it comes to giving a good blowjob. If your lover has a foot fetish, mix things up with a footjob—yes, it’s a thing!
What tricks and tips would you add to this list of blowjob techniques? Please share!
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