Phone sex might seem like a last resort—something that you and your partner do because you’re apart and horny—but it can actually be a lot of fun and worth trying anytime. And if you’re into role playing, phone sex can be even more exciting.
Role playing is limited only by your imagination. You can be anyone, fucking anywhere and anyway you choose, provided you can paint a convincing enough auditory picture. Here are some tips to get the most out of a long-distance role-play session.
4 Tips for Role Playing on the Phone
1. Get Comfortable
Dim the lights, lock the door, and get naked. Do whatever you need to do to relax and get in the mood before your call even begins. Unlike an in-person encounter, phone sex requires creativity and the suspension of disbelief, both of which can make it a little more challenging.
Help yourself along by creating the optimal setting for pleasure, and don’t be discouraged if you find yourself distracted or embarrassed the first time around. You will get better at settling into your happy place and committing to the moment.
2. Set the Scene
Get focused and in the right head space by gathering your props. Think of the scene you want to create, then about the things you’ll need to convey that action over the phone. Are you a dom who plans to restrain his partner and torture her with a vibrator, teasing and edging her until she can take no more? If so, you’ll need a good, strong vibe along with some buckles or chains that you can use to make the appropriate sound effects.
Have your scenario well thought out and agreed upon ahead of time. That way, you can dive right in, without a lot of preplay chit chat.
3. Use Descriptive Language
Close your eyes and immerse yourself in the sensory details of what’s unfolding. Think of what you would be experiencing if you were playing with your partner in real life, then let the descriptive dirty talk flow. To use the above example of orgasm denial, don’t just tell her that you’re tying her up, get super specific about the kind of restraint you’re using and how tight you’re pulling it. Describe the vibrator you’re holding in vivid detail—shape, size, intensity—then exactly where and how you’re placing it.
It takes practice to incorporate this level of intense narration into your phone sex play sessions, especially if you’re not a skilled story teller to begin with, so be patient with yourself.
4. Don’t Fake It
Although role playing over the phone can feel less like sex and more like theater, it’s best not to fake your desire—aim to strike a balance between performance and genuine enjoyment. This might be hard to do at first, but eventually things will flow more smoothly. If you’re like me, you might find that all the things I have laid out here actually serve to heighten your desire.
In the end, sex is about sharing and connecting on an honest level. If you don’t come hard the first time around, don’t worry about it. There’s always next time.
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