We’ve all been there: tortured by writer’s block while faced with task of creating the perfect online dating bio. Where does one even begin?
I know from my own experience, it’s tempting to skip over that part altogether, hoping that pictures and a list of interests will be enough to entice a future date. The truth is, it isn’t. Women read those bios very carefully, looking for clues about who you really are. So what kind of things do they want to know?
What You Want
Are you looking for a one-night stand? A fuck buddy? A wife? Straight up—what are you hoping to find? I know you had to categorize yourself off the top when you filled out questions to create your profile but that generic title, whatever it may be, doesn’t go deep enough.
If a lady is taking the time to read your bio, she wants information about your intentions. She’s trying to imagine how you might fit into her life, so it really benefits you to provide plenty of detail. Paint a picture of what it might be like to be your date.
What You Enjoy
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: Happiness attracts. If you talk about the things that bring you joy, rather than all the things you hate or that you don’t want, you’re much more likely to get a positive response.
When I read a guy’s bio, I always assume there’s a lot more to him than what I see on the page. I don’t want or need to be hit with the full range of his emotional inventory right out of the gate. So your ex-girlfriend cheated on you? That’s too bad, but maybe save that piece of info for the second date.
What You’re Good At
Again, try to focus on the positive. Show that you have confidence in yourself by bragging a little, or sharing your passion for whatever you’re skilled at. List details about your life that make you proud. What makes you feel fulfilled?
Nobody wants to date someone who is completely miserable on every front. If you are, it might be best to work on that before looking for someone online.
What You’re Bad At
Here’s where you balance things out a little by showing that you have some humility and that you’re a full-spectrum human being. The idea is to make your dating profile three quarters positive, one quarter “negative.” It’s okay to admit that you’re bad at talking on the phone or that you hate to cook, or whatever.
Try not to get too self-deprecating here, just show that you have self-awareness and room to grow. Self-awareness is extremely sexy, and so is the ability to admit your weaknesses. Just be sure to wrap things up on a positive note.