Are you feeling like you’ve been run over by a lawnmower, when it comes to online dating? Spit up and chewed out over and over again. We’ve all been there at least once, so even the most confident daters have their moments of insecurity. Bad dates and breakups can put you out of commission for a time, but once you’re ready to get back in the saddle, you’ll want to feel good about yourself before you get going. Use these steps to build your dating confidence…
3 Steps to Build Dating Confidence
1. Focus on Self-Improvement
Life is a journey where improving oneself along the way is important. This builds confidence on every level, professional and personal, and is attractive to the opposite sex. What areas of your life do you think could use a little tweaking? Maybe you want to focus on your health, start working out. Or maybe you want to try something creative, take a painting class. Not only will these make you feel better about yourself, you might even meet someone to ask out. Remember: you have to love yourself before anyone else will.
2. Write a New Profile
A lot of people use the same online dating profile for years, and I’ll admit I have to0. But remember, there are many others who have had memberships for a long time or who jump on and offline, and these people will recognize the same old profile. It’s a turn off and makes you look like a stagnant person who isn’t doing anything new with their life. A woman will think: If he puts no effort into maintaining his profile, what kind of effort will he put into a relationship. You don’t have to start from scratch, but that’s not a bad idea either. And don’t forget to update your photos regularly.
3. Learn from the Past
Many of us make the same dating mistakes over and over again, and that can not only be frustrating for new people, but also ourselves. It’s helpful when people tell us what we’ve done that they didn’t like, but sometimes we have to rely on self-reflection for answers. Good friends can usually tell you what they find annoying about you, without hurting your feelings, so don’t be afraid to ask. Maybe you talk too much, talk about your exes, or have a tendency to be negative. No one is perfect, and it’s good to know what can be improved, hence step one.
What tips can you share for building dating confidence?