Who doesn’t love a good blow job? Most men I’ve dated can’t seem to live without them, and I have to admit that I love giving them. That said the art of giving and receiving is multifaceted. It’s not as simple as wordlessly directing your partner’s head toward your crotch in hopes that she’ll be into it. There are certain things that can really deepen one’s enthusiasm for sucking on a man’s dick: things that I feel are my DUTY to share with you in the interest of everyone’s enjoyment.
An Opening Conversation
Although it may feel awkward to start, speaking with your partner about your needs and expectations is really important, especially if she’s planning to go down on you for the first time. Everyone’s idea of what makes for a good blow job is completely different, as are everyone’s personal boundaries. Never take for granted that your partner will know exactly what you want or that she will be into the same things you are. If things just happen in the moment, you can still communicate by letting her set the pace and offering suggestions as to what you would like her to do. It’s important to give her the option though… don’t just grab at her or push her head down. While some women might enjoy that, some really don’t and it’s pretty hard for your partner to speak up with a mouth full of cock.
An End Strategy
If all goes according to plan, you are going to cum, possibly hard. And where is all that cum going to end up? In your partner’s mouth? On the sheets? Maybe in your partner’s eye if the two of you don’t figure out your plan. And trust me… it’s all fun and games until someone gets a cum shot to the eye. Your strategy doesn’t have to be discussed at length, just be sure your partner has some advanced warning of when you are about to blow. She and her corneas will thank you for it.
Cleanliness
It’s pretty obvious and I’m sure not an issue for most of you, but no matter how turned on your partner is, or how much she longs to get you off, poor hygiene can shut it right down. You want your partner to feel comfortable and free to explore every part of you. Just as it’s hard for her to speak with your dick in her mouth, it’s equally difficult for her to avoid the foul stench of ball sweat, given that she has to well… breathe! Through her nose! Take a little time to prepare yourself for your partner and – if you so desire – find other less smelly ways to remind her of your rugged athleticism.
No pressure
Many of us (men and women) sometimes feel that blow jobs are a given, that oral sex is a mandatory gateway to full-on intercourse. This may be true for some people, but not for everyone. It’s never a good idea to assume that your partner will be willing to go down on you, especially early on in the relationship. Even if you’re involved in a one-time hookup, leave room for options when it comes to how your partner can get you off. Feeling relaxed and free to think outside the box (or cock) can lead to some really amazing results.
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