Nothing spoils an enjoyable non-monogamous lifestyle faster or more assuredly than allowing yourself to fall into a committed relationship when what you really want is multiple casual and/or primarily sexual relationships. Even if you’re comfortable sneaking around on a partner who thinks you are exclusively theirs, that sort of arrangement is just a heartbreak waiting to happen, and drama that neither you nor your partners need.
The key to avoiding commitment while dating is to be up front with your partners about what you’re looking for and what you want from your relationship with them. Fooling a woman into thinking you’re only interested in her might seem like a fast track into her pants, but it’s wrong on so many levels that I don’t know where to start in listing the problems with doing it. It’s cruel, it’s dishonest, and ultimately, it will come back to bite you in the ass, every time.
Instead of trying to play people while playing the field, just be up front about who you are and what you’re looking for. This approach will not only allow you to look yourself in the mirror without guilt, it will lead to relationships with women who are better suited for you, and who share your desire for a more free and open arrangement.
In this day and age, it’s much easier for men who want casual relationships to find women who want the same thing than it used to be. Online dating sites are filled with profiles of women who aren’t looking for a serious commitment; like you, what they want is a good time with no strings attached. With so many women out there who share your point of view, why would you mess around with one who doesn’t?
At the end of the day, avoiding commitment is really quite simple: it can’t happen unless you let it happen. Remember that simple rule, and you’ll never have to say you’re sorry for who you are, sexually speaking.