I was out for drinks with the office, and the conversation turned from work to sex. It usually does! I was surprised when the shy guy from tech confessed that his wife is a squirter. He said she gushes easily during every orgasm.
Jim didn’t believe him. “No way man, you’re making it up. I’ve looked for it with a lot of hookups and my ex-girlfriend. It’s not there!”
Everyone turned to look at me, waiting for the woman at the table to weigh in. Well, here goes…
The G-spot is named after Dr. Ernst Grafenberg, who brought it into the limelight mid last century. He found that some women experienced incredible sensations and a kind of swelling of nerves and blood vessels on the front wall of the vagina, about two to three inches inside.
When the G-spot is stimulated, some women have intense orgasms, and some ejaculate a large quantity of liquid at orgasm, now called female ejaculation or gushing.
Myth #1: The G-Spot is a myth.
Try telling women who have literally filled Mason jars with ejaculate that this isn’t real! Many doctors and scientists say there isn’t physiological evidence of a G-spot, so voila, no such thing. This is utter nonsense!
But in the sense that the G-spot is not a specific anatomical part, like the clitoris or the big toe, this is correct. It’s simply the anterior wall of a woman’s vagina—a major part of her sex organs!
Multiple factors converge to create pleasure here—the urinary apparatus including the Skene’s gland are just as loaded with nerve endings as anywhere else. This gland is considered as parallel to a man’s prostate gland and it secretes liquids that keep our urinary tract moist and clean. It’s hidden, but has nerve endings that respond with pleasure to stimulation.
This area is also home to the most important factor of all—the clitoris.
In the race of old-boys-club doctors to suggest that women who experienced vaginal pleasure and orgasms were mature and women who used their clitoris were infantile, Mother Nature has the last laugh—the clitoris isn’t just that heavenly little nub. Rather, clitoral erectile tissue extends most of the way up the front wall of the vagina.
The G-spot might better be called the C-spot, interior angle.
Myth #2: All women have one.
Some well meaning dudes like Jim have been certain that if they keep digging, they’ll find it.
If your date has an active sex life, assume she’s already done all she can or wants to do about finding it.
But you’re right, this isn’t really a myth. ALL girls have the anatomical attributes discussed above that were later collectively named the “G-spot.”
We just don’t all respond the same way to stimulation there. The top part of the vagina is a very important part of our sexual pleasure, but targeted prodding and pushing can be unpleasant.
No amount of poking and stroking will cause female ejaculation in a woman whose body doesn’t do that. That’s because the volume of fluids produced varies greatly from woman to woman.
Myth #3: The G-spot is new.
Before Dr. Grafenberg, there was another Dr. G—Dutch physician Regnier de Graaf described the phenomenon of female ejaculation during sex in the 1600s. He suggested women had a place that was parallel to a man’s prostate gland that produced pleasurable sensations. That’s the Skene’s gland mentioned above.
Needless to say, millions of women discovered the spot long before either of them!