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Tips to Get Laid on Your First Date

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It can be intimidating to be a guy looking for sex because you face so much potential rejection. It’s all part of the dating game, and it’s fun and exciting but also frustrating when you’re horny.

Here are some tips for upping the chances of turning the potential hookup into actual sex.

Be clear from the start of your intentions.

As a woman, I can tell you there is nothing more lame than a guy pretending he’s into you, or into a potential relationship, or looking for lasting love, or looking for a regular hookup partner, when he just wants sex.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting sex, so don’t, ahem, beat around the bush about it.

Meet women who are looking for casual sex and hookups.

It seems obvious, but you’d be amazed how many guys with a hard-on just ignore the part of a profile that says, “I’m looking for a man who hopes to settle down.”

A friend of mine once put an ad on a religious singles site that plainly read, “I’m saving myself for marriage and am looking for a devout, religious man willing to wait with me.” She was smoking hot, sure, but dozens of guys just ignored the plain language she laid out for them and then complained about not getting laid.

Don’t waste her time, fellas, or yours.

Don’t sabotage the sex with distraction.

You’re on a date hoping to hook up at the end of it. You have your sales pitch ready, you’re scrubbed, and even pressed your shirt. You’re rocking new jeans and washed your car. So what’s the problem?

If you’re distracted all night, checking your texts, trying to hurry the drinks, acting bored, how is she going to want to go home with you?

I went on a date last week with a guy who I couldn’t wait to strip naked for, but he spent the dinner checking other texts from dating apps. Needless to say I went home alone, and then called one of my lovers who pays attention to me and was grateful to see me.

Be affectionate and attentive.

The date is the seduction period. Use it. It’s part of the foreplay. A woman who wants sex wants to be desired. Otherwise, what’s the point? So desire her. Pay attention to the details of what she is wearing or doing. Touch her arm and hair. Ask questions about what she likes. Whether you talk about wine or favorite sex positions, make some of the date all about her.

Kiss her.

Another no brainer that a million men miss.

Here’s an easy way to tell how things are going. Once she’s willing to be kissed and into it, you’re almost there. If she’s not attracted to you or finds your personality irritating, she won’t enjoy kissing.

You don’t have to say a word—ask with your eyes. Move closer, move your mouth closer, then hesitate and look into her eyes with a question in yours.

If the kissing is killer, you’ve got this in the bag.

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