Flirting online is easier than you think and a fundamental necessity to becoming a successful online dater. When you first join dating sites, it may seem daunting and weird… How can I make a woman notice me? How can I flirt without her seeing me in person? It’s okay, we all go through this; it took me a long time to figure out that not only is it a skill that develops, but also one that becomes natural over time.
Tips for Flirting from Afar (Online)
Use Engaging Photos
Post photos of yourself that are inviting, that show you doing everyday things. The key here is to look approachable and down to earth. Halloween pics or long distance shots just won’t cut it. The truth is, women will look at photos first to get a sense of who you are; if something turns her off, she won’t read you’re profile.
Respond to the Fine Print
Scouring a Woman’s profile for the small details is a must. When you find a golden nugget of information, use this in your first message by asking her a question or relating it to your experience. She’ll appreciate that you aren’t just responding to a pretty picture.
Be Sexually Restrained
Now this might depend on the site you’re on, but generally women want to be wooed into bed, not knocked over the head with a club and dragged home. Save your suggestive moves and comments for in person meetings when it seems appropriate. This includes not using naked or half-naked pictures.
Keep it Light
Show your humorous side when writing your profile. Mr. Serious never gets the girl. Try to find a balance between light and dark. She should see that you like to have fun, but that you have got things together. Coming on too strong in a first message will scare a girl off.
Whether a woman is sending you a first message or responding to yours, try to follow up the same day. I know, I know, we’re all busy, but it shows that you are definitely interested and attentive. This will help you stand out from all the passive guys out there, and believe me, there are a lot!
This does take time if you’re new to online dating, but it will come. And be persistent, not by bugging a woman who isn’t responding to you, but not giving up altogether because only 1 out of 30 women answer a message. Know that you are deserving of finding what you’re looking for, whether it be a hookup, part-time lover, or a girlfriend.
So see, flirting online isn’t that complicated. I actually think it’s the in person flirting that’s the most challenging, especially when nerves come into play.
What tips can you share for successful online flirting? Do you find it easy?