Full disclosure: I’m a woman who really enjoys performing oral sex on a guy. (And on women, too, but that’s another post!)
I love giving you pleasure, I love teasing you, I love taking control and making you melt, I love how aroused you get, and I love the variety. And… I KNOW I’m good at it.
But I listen to my friends talk and I read your comments, and it seems one area many men and women don’t jive is on oral sex. You want more, and she’s in a hurry or skips that course entirely.
Here’s how you can get more and better blowjobs.
5 Tips to Get More Blowjobs
1. Express Yourself
Communicating about sex can be tricky, but it’s the best way to resolve things and to find out what’s really going on.
Some people find it hard to talk to casual sex partners and others find it tough to talk with long-term partners. But if you don’t express your needs and desires or hear her out, you won’t be on the same page.
You can begin expressing yourself in your online dating profile. Looking for casual hookups that include blowjobs isn’t the craziest thing people have spelled out in their profile!
When you’re talking, don’t order her around—simply express your desire for head like any other fantasy or need. And listening is just as important—if she says she’s turned off by dominating guys or sweaty balls, you’ve got your cue right there.
2. Give More Head
Some women won’t suck dick on principle unless you eat her out. This is because some guys never give head—whether they are selfish, just can’t be bothered, or see it as unmanly—they just don’t. I think most guys who don’t give head are just worried they aren’t doing it right, so they skip it.
For women who want tit for tat, it can be political chess move in the sex game. Or it can just be common sense— withholding a gold card in order to get something she wants too.
Whatever the reason is, the best way to more blowjobs is to become the kind of lover who gives and gives, and gets and gets.
3. Show Gratitude
Show gratitude, not attitude. If you are full of expectations and full of yourself, it’s hard to be thankful. Instead of taking on a resentful approach about women never giving you what you want, or an entitled approach, be thankful and tell her how much you appreciate her.
Guys who are gracious get way more callbacks and more of what they want.
4. Hook Up without Having Sex
Sometimes blowjobs get the shaft simply because everyone is moving on to the main course. You might get a few licks on your way to the penis-in-vagina, or you might have more blowjobs when you’re with a new lover but haven’t gone all the way.
If fucking itself is the end goal, there are lots of fun things along the way that stop happening as often.
5. Keep It Clean
Most guys on the dating scene today are aware that they should scrub their balls and pits and crack before expecting sex, but in case you missed that memo—take a shower before your date, or with her. It’s just good blowjob etiquette.
And throw in a little manscaping for good measure—trim the bush to present your package the best you can.
Are you already receiving blowjobs on the regular? What tips would you add?
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