I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone online to find the same guys with their same tired out profiles. The good news is, if you’re reading this, you’ve already got the jump on them. You care enough to put in the kind of effort it takes to maintain a stand-out profile, and that can really increase your chances of success.
I’m not suggesting that you should create a whole new profile every week, that’s crazy. Just keep things fresh by updating each section as needed. It might sound like a lot of work, but if you get into the habit of reviewing things regularly, you’ll discover that it’s completely manageable.
When to Update Each Section of Your Profile
You should update this at least once a month. Your picture is the first thing ladies see, and it makes the biggest impression. Consider keeping a file on your phone or desktop for prospective profile pics. They don’t all have to be bathroom selfies, either! Those are the worst kind!
Choose well-lit pictures that give a clear view of your face and that show you having fun. Ask your friends to take pics of you when you’re out. Get your mom to send you her favorites from last week’s family reunion! Use whatever resources you’ve got to avoid the oh so clichéd angry, brooding profile pic. Ugh.
Update these as new interests arise. Depending on how busy or adventurous you are, your list could change a lot or a little over time. Just be sure to review it every few months to ensure that everything is up to date.
Any woman who is interested in meeting you will pour over that list to see what the two of you have in common, so it’s very important to keep things current. Are you really still chasing Pokémon? Didn’t think so. Be honest about what you’re into and try to avoid padding your list with stuff you don’t like but you think women want to see. That will seriously backfire on you in the end.
When you review your interests, look over your bio as well. Have you changed jobs or gone through some kind of life-changing event? Even if your life story hasn’t changed that much over time, you can always find a better way to tell it. Maybe you’ve grown in ways that give you a different perspective on who you are and what you need. Maybe you’ve finally managed to burp the entire alphabet after ten years of trying!* The ladies want to know!
If you’re struggling to find a date, it might be a good idea to look through these and see if there’s any room for compromise. Maybe you can expand your search diameter from 25km to 30km, or up your age limit a bit? You never know… the woman of your dreams might be one year older and a half a block away from your previous settings.
In the larger scheme of things, are search parameters really that important? A few little adjustments could open up a whole new world of options for you, especially if you feel that the pickings are slim.
What do you think? Does your profile need some freshening up?
*Please don’t mention this if you want to get laid.