You love to lick her, and you know you make her moan, so can you still benefit from new tricks? Maybe you’re like George Costanza, ready and willing but never confident.
It’s hard to get advice from the guys. You know men are prone to embellishment, and besides, you need details, not conquest stories.
Maybe you’ve wondered if women who love women have secrets on the subject. After all, if you are experienced eating pussy, AND you have one, you might just have an interesting perspective guys are missing.
Oral Sex Secrets from Lesbians
Study Your Cat
Seriously, my lesbian friend Debra is convinced that everything you need to know about oral sex you can learn from observing a cat clean itself. Make it a whole body experience. Take your time. Savor each segment. Vary your strokes.
A lot of straight girls think pussy licking is a few strokes before the penis finds its way in.
Some blame sexism or negative views of women’s bodies, but I don’t think this reason works in face of the evidence—men love pussy and chew on dirty underwear, after all. I believe it’s because, like our friend George, they aren’t entirely confident about what they’re doing.
Lesbians know that it takes several moments for a woman to relax, just as long to really start getting into it, another stretch to begin building up tension, and more time to orgasm if that’s how she wants to get off.
Explore the Vulva and Beyond
You might be overeager to dive for the magic button, but the clitoris responds to sensual stimulation all over, and she has nerve endings throughout every part of her pussy. Suck, lick, and kiss her upper thighs, her belly, her mons, her outer lips, her inner labia, her hole, her hood, and her clitoris.
Be a Tease
Women who make love to women know that a woman’s body responds to anticipation. Small moves that tease her, like stopping for a moment, or blowing gently on her clit, make her crave the contact of your mouth.
Open Her Slowly
Lesbians understand that a woman’s body responds to being gently opened. Just thinking of “spreading” makes many of us hot. It might seem obvious, but many men forget to do it. Oh, sure, you’ll spread our legs when you penetrate us with your cock, but there is a lot of subtle opening that goes on with the many folds of a woman’s body.
Her thighs open and spread, and then there are two sets of gates with her labia majora and inner lips, and the pussy hole itself.
You want to use your teasing tricks every step of the way because her nerves experience stimulation differently when she is opened in stages.
Hold Off on Penetration
You might be in a hurry to get your fingers inside her, even if you’re keeping your dick out of the picture this time. But get her super worked up first. If she’s ultra aroused, and penetration is denied her, she’ll start bucking against your face and begging for it.
Hold off for a long time. Make her desperate for the first insertion, then keep teasing her. The more aroused she gets, the more she’ll want—this is why more lesbians than straight women enjoy fisting. We can take a lot when we’re aroused for a prolonged time and penetrated slowly.
What’s your special tip for satisfying a woman orally?
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