A friend and I were reminiscing about our dating experiences, and we had to laugh because while we both had some very juicy stories to tell, we also had our share of unremarkable tales that barely warranted a mention.
That got me wondering about what makes a hookup stand out among the rest. Here are
5 Things that Make a Hookup Memorable
1. The Degree of Anticipation
One of the best things about hooking up is the excitement of waiting for it to happen. All of my favorite hookups happened in the wake of lots of flirtatious messaging or, in one particular case, a hot date where we opened up about our fantasies.
While chemistry certainly helps to create anticipation, you can give it a hand by sending some steamy texts leading up to your night together, or by delaying gratification a bit. Plan your date a few days out so you’ll have lots of time to give her a preview of coming events.
2. Your Hosting Skills
Be sure she feels comfortable at your place. Clean it up and hide your porn. Make sure you have something to eat and drink on hand, and create the kind of casual atmosphere that she knows she can leave at any time.
My most memorable date was with a professional chef. He did all the things I just mentioned, plus he made a spectacular meal for us to enjoy right before he fucked me senseless. I’m not saying you have to be a chef to make a good impression, just try to bring something of yourself to the experience.
3. The Quality of Foreplay
I can’t stress this enough, women need foreplay! I don’t care if you have a two-foot schlong. Unless you put in the time and effort it takes to make her wet and ready for you, she’ll go home feeling unsatisfied. All my best hookups were never rushed. We took lots of time getting to know each other’s bodies before heading to the finish line.
Ask her what she likes! Incorporate it into some dirty talk or have a sexy conversation about it beforehand. Share your desires too, and see if there’s some common ground between you. Many people are too embarrassed to open up about these things, but if doing so will give you both a night you won’t forget, isn’t it worth it?
4. Your Attentiveness to Her Needs
Pay attention to your date’s signals. Is she relaxed and happy? Is she a bit nervous, or excited? Is she telling you that she wants to take things slow, or is she grabbing the lube and unbuckling your pants? Try not to get so carried away with your own agenda that you fail to notice the vibe she’s putting out there.
Make sure that she remembers your hookup for all the right reasons. Make her want to tell all her friends about what a considerate guy you are.
5. The Strength of Your Desire
So far I’ve talked all about her experience, but I can assure you that yours is just as important. Your date will want to know that you’re enjoying yourself. Not only will it help her feel sexy, but it will make her relax more, knowing that you’re having fun and that you’re glad to be there.
The most memorable hookups are undoubtedly fun for all involved. If, for whatever reason, you aren’t feeling it, don’t force yourself to follow through. Most women know when a guy is just going through the motions, so for your sake and hers, don’t go there unless you’re completely sure you want to.
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