Do you call your date or girlfriend very often? It seems the cell phone is hardly used as an actual phone anymore, but merely as a portable computer. More and more people are opting to text between hookups, but there is definitely something that gets lost in that translation.
Even with all the available emojis that enhance flirting through texting, nothing quite compares to a lover’s seductive voice creating a hot scene from their imagination. And if you have a long-distance relationship, phone sex is the perfect way to keep the fires burning.
7 Phone Sex Tips for Men
1. Get comfortable. You probably don’t want to call from your cubicle at work, even with your feet up and your hands down your pants. Be at home on the couch or in your bed, ready for some playful chitchat.
2. Know who you’re talking to. Know the woman you’re calling intimately in a way that you know certain things that will turn her on. If you’ve only had one date that ended with a goodnight kiss, this is probably not her… yet.
3. Talk seductively. Don’t talk like you’re at the game with your buddies. When she asks, “ What are you going to do to me?”, be ready with a plan. Too much preparation will sound rehearsed, but I’m sure you have your go-to fantasies.
4. Use your imagination. You can create a scene that is familiar and something you know she already likes, but be creative and add some flair. Describe in detail what you’re doing. (e.g., “I’m going to carry you wet from the shower and throw you onto the bed… then I’m going to hold your wrists above your head while I…”).
5. Avoid cheesy or crass dialogue. If you start feeling awkward, don’t throw in humor to make yourself feel more comfortable. Silly jokes will spoil the mood and might have her making up an excuse to get off the phone. Similarly, if you get too porny (e.g., “You’re a dirty slut, aren’t you?”), you’re likely to turn her off, and maybe for good!
6. Stay in character. If there’s a break or sudden silence, don’t flip the switch and ask her how her day was, or if she’s free next Saturday. Just like foreplay in real life, it takes time and focus to arouse a woman. Keep the sexy talk going, and don’t forget to tell her how turned on you are.
7. Take her lead. Some women are sex-phone pros and will surprise you by taking over the conversation and leading you right to orgasm. If this awesome scenario happens to you, by all means enjoy the ride and don’t try to take over or interrupt.
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