Do Women Like Big Cock?

Q: Dear Holly. Do you like big cock? – Evan

A: It’s not just you who wonders about this… it’s all men. Every man wants to know how their penis measures up against others, especially from a woman’s perspective.

Even when ex-lovers and boyfriends don’t blatantly come out and ask us (and yes, some do!) we still know they’re thinking about it.

I like to think in terms of cock size as Small, Medium, Large, and X-Large. I’ve seen most every size and shape and color of cock, so I think I have a good grasp on this topic.

I can’t speak for all women, but for me, there is such a thing as too big when it comes to cock size. The X-Large cock can hurt, especially if it has an exceedingly large mushroom cap. It can hurt going in, and when it’s being thrust in and out, it can feel like it’s going to come out your abdomen. The X-Large cock just isn’t fun, because the woman is always bracing herself, instead of just revelling in the moment.

Another reason the X-Large cock sucks is because it’s hard to suck, to give it a good blow job. A man with this cock would like nothing more than deep-throat oral, but honey, it’s just not going to happen unless your lover loves to gag.

Medium to Large cock is what women want and love. As long as you’ve got a decent length and girth, you don’t need to worry yourself. Of course, we women as individuals do have our individual kinks and curiosities, so while a long, thin, pencil dick may not be a turn on for most, it may be a fetish for others.

I have to mention the Small cock too, I guess. Any woman who says size doesn’t matter is probably lying, but size is also about perspective. Just like clothing, one woman’s Small is another’s X-Small, and still another’s Medium. You have to have experience for comparison.

The good news is that most ladies know all about the potential for growth when it comes to the Small cock. A penis while soft may be little more than a dangling nub, but it can easily become a Medium when hard.

I’ve only been with one cock that I deemed too Small (and never to this man’s face) because it was hard to find a condom to fit, with one even coming off and being stuck inside me for an hour!

If you do have a Small to Medium cock, the important thing is to focus on building other skills—kissing, caressing, suckling, massaging, spanking, complimenting, going down (remember, most women don’t come from intercourse but cunnilingus.) For women it’s all about the buildup, not the in and out, so find another way to impress us.

Back to your original question: do I like big cock? Sure, if it’s not too big. And if it’s small, that’s okay too, as long as he’s a well-rounded lover with a good skill set.

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