More than ever, porn might be a go-to for you right now. I get it, let’s just say now isn’t the optimal time to find a new girlfriend and, faced with all that buildup, you find yourself sitting there with your dick in your hand and one hundred tabs open.
You’re probably going down the same avenues over and over on your favorite porn sites. But how many best friend’s girlfriends, naughty step-daughters, and MILFs masturbating and giving blowjobs can you watch over and over again? How many porn stars with obnoxiously fake titties can you watch oohing and aahing in such a nasal voice that you fear there might be a swarm of bees loose in your home?
How to Get Out of a Porn Rut
Add Sex Toys to Your Routine
I used to watch porn and just masturbate using my hand, but that got boring fast. I started masturbating with sex toys similar to the Fleshlight. There’s no shortage of toys that are made specifically for masturbation, but don’t let that stop you from experimenting with other props or accessories that you think might get you off.
Browse online for different distributors of toys, and always read the reviews before purchasing. And if you don’t have the cash to splurge on your sexual appetites right now, look around your home. You’d be surprised what can be done with a wooden spoon and whisk!
Watch with Your Partner
Porn has long been seen and mostly experienced as something we not only do alone, but also hide from others. Some couples even like to pretend that they don’t watch altogether—after all, isn’t their partner enough?
The thing is, porn is just another sexual outlet, not a replacement for real intimacy. But who says you can’t watch together, apart. Try taking turns sharing your favorite videos, become more daring in what you share, or jump from category to category. This game is a great way to get to know what really makes your lover tick.
If it turns both you and your partner on, see it as a new form of foreplay that you can add to your repertoire. Or masturbate and attempt to orgasm simultaneously, side by side.
Watch against Type
This is challenging—you like what you like. However, if you click around you might find other things that also turn you on that you never considered all that sexy. Maybe you haven’t explored porn that features cuckolding couples, MMF threesomes, transgender dominants, or shibari rope play.
Go watch some 80s gay porn and bust to all those men with blond perms ejaculating on each other’s pink spandex shorts. Or try 70s amateur porn, with full bush and disco blaring in the background.
If you aren’t into something, no big deal. At home alone, you can be as off message as you like—there’s nobody there to watch or judge you.
Take a Break
Do you think you might have a porn addiction? More and more of my guy friends are talking, and some bragging, about how long they’ve gone without watching porn. It actually seems to be a trend of sorts, and considered cool by the cool crowd. And it makes sense, what with women sharing that men who watch too much porn are desensitized and are unable to perform or please in the bedroom.
As long as you don’t confuse real-life sex with porn sex, you should be alright. My last girlfriend turned me on to female-friendly porn which opened my eyes to what women think is really sexy, and it taught me a few new techniques as well.
Check out this HuffPost article: Women Reveal Their Porn Preferences, and It’s All Over the Map
Men were masturbating long before online pornography was available. Just imagining sexual scenarios is the way guys used to jack off for millions of years. It can really work!
How long have you gone without porn? Share in the comments!
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