The handjob can get a bad rap because it’s associated with masturbation and thus not considered super sexy, but there are many handjob techniques and practices to explore that will rock your lover’s world.
The handjob remains the go-to classic because of its solo perfunctory capabilities. But we all know that any kind of sex, handjobs included, is better when there’s two.
A misconception that many women have is that men don’t want handjobs, because they can do it themselves. But the truth is that when it’s not your own hand and mind controlling that hand, it can be a sensational feeling and experience. There are some men who actually prefer handjobs over blowjobs—strange, but true!
And the handjob need not just be a foreplay appetizer, but can be a start-to-finish main course. Let’s look at some handjob techniques and practices that will bring the handjob to the forefront of your kinky cavorting.
6 Handjob Techniques and Practices
1. Mix Pleasure and Pain
A cock is super sensitive and only becomes more so the longer you play with it, the harder it gets. It’s important to get to know the cock you play with, the one you’re providing pleasure to.
Mixing in a bit of pain can turn an old fashioned handjob into a rollercoaster of emotional ecstasy. When the member is good and hard and you’re in a rhythm, you’ll want to shake things up with a sideways slap. Your lover may be surprised, but he won’t stop you. I like to do this a couple times before orgasm, usually right before I think he might come.
You can also give the balls a few squeezes here or there, or grab the cock and twist to the tip and pull gently for a different sensation. Pain thresholds will vary, depending on the depth of your D/s roles in the bedroom.
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2. Play with Sensory Deprivation
When your partner doesn’t know what you’re going to do next with a particular part of his body, the anticipation takes the play to another level.
The easiest way to do this is to use a blindfold. Personally I like to tie my partner up as well, but that’s up to you. Blindfolds and bondage can indulge everything from kink lite to hardcore BDSM. Taking away the ability to see will heighten everything he feels. Have him wear earplugs or noise-canceling earphones for even more touch sensation.
3. Go Under the Table
Taking your show on the road can have an exhilarating effect on both parties. Sex in public is so hot because there is the potential to be caught or seen. While this isn’t for everyone, many of us know how fun it already is.
Try giving a handjob under the cozy intimate table for two at your favorite restaurant. Snuggle up on a blanket at the beach and put your hand down his pants. Wrap your buttery popcorn fingers around his shaft at the movies, sliding your greasy hand up and down. You can lick it in between for added fun.
4. Play Hot and Cold
Temperature play can be added to almost any part of sex, but it has the most intense effect when used on the most sensitive part of his body.
Bring a bowl of ice cubes to have at the ready or warm up some therapeutic gel packs. The trick here is to go from hot to cold and back again. Play around with warm and cool rubs, lengths of time and with different pressures. Rubbing your palms back and forth with his sausage in the middle can warm things up after running your hands under hot water.
5. Wake and Shake
The sleep fetish is a kink many couples experiment with, with consent. It’s more of a fantasy for men than women, but you can turn the tables here and wake him up with some smooth moves beneath the sheets.
Squeeze a dollop of lube and find his sleeping snake, then stealthy wrap your fingers round his flaccid member before rubbing him the right way. It’s a wonderful way to wake up and taking it all the way will put him back to sleep.
6. Juice It Up
I love bringing food into the bedroom, especially when you can enjoy your spoils after. Take a large tomato and core the center through, before warming it up in the microwave (you want it warm but not falling apart.)
Hold it like a baseball and insert your lover’s penis. This feeling will be a delightful surprise, especially if he’s blindfolded. Slide that juicy fruit up and down, slow then fast and slow again. When the tomato inevitably falls apart all over his cock and balls, lick it up and eat what’s left. I guarantee he won’t forget this experience.
7. Deny His Pleasure
Orgasm denial has become a routine part of the play of most kinky couples. And you don’t have to consider yourself kinky to enjoy this basic pleasure. We often think of orgasm as the goal of any sexual practice, but what’s the rush? Getting off a guy is easy, resisting the urge to cross the finish line is much more challenging and even pleasurable.
Be the boss, and don’t let him come until you say he can. I’m not a domme, but I like to play one occasionally. I love to have my man beg for sweet satisfaction, every time I bring him to the brink, then suddenly release my grip. His enjoyment is my enjoyment, and I am a very very patient woman.
Read: 8 Orgasm Denials Games and Ways to Play
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