Are you a fan of texting, or do you lament its arrival on the dating scene? Either way, texting is here to stay so you better get good at it. I’m not going to give you a bunch of specific suggestions about what to say in your texts—you can figure that out yourself.
Instead, I’m going to offer up a few general guidelines that should help you keep her interest, and keep you from looking too desperate.
Texting Tips for Dating Men
1. Don’t Leave Her Hanging
That whole thing about not texting her right away is a load of crap. If you had fun on your date and want to let her know that you’re thinking of her, absolutely send her a text the next day! She’ll probably think you’re super cute, and that you’re interested, and isn’t that what you want?
Don’t worry about coming on too strong, or being perceived as pathetic. A guy who knows what he wants is nothing but hot.
2. Cool It with the Dick Pics
What isn’t hot (and I can confirm this based on my own experience) is receiving unsolicited dick pics. They are not sexy, and I can assure you that they won’t make the impression you’re hoping for.
If she asks you for a picture, by all means send one. Just don’t send her one every day after that like some kind of fucked up dick pic pusher. Just because she wanted to see your cock once, doesn’t mean she wants to see it every time she checks her phone.
3. Let Her Set the Tone
Let her tell you when it’s time to turn up the heat. If she starts sexting you, that’s a pretty big indicator that she wants you to get a little dirty in your exchanges with her. You can initiate the sexting, but only do it when you’re sure she’s been flirting with you, and stop right away if she wants to change the subject, or drops out of the conversation unexpectedly.
It’s easy to overdo it, especially at the beginning when you don’t know each other very well. Just pay attention and don’t force things.
4. Don’t Smother Her
No matter how excited you are about seeing her again, for the love of god control yourself when it comes to sending multiple texts. One or two texts a day is sweet, thirty texts an hour is pathological.
Give her a chance to anticipate your next meeting. Leave her with a few mysteries that can be solved in the course of your face-to-face conversations. And if she doesn’t answer you right away, don’t panic. Let her come to you.
5. Don’t Overdo It with Emojis
Sure they help you convey emotions, but they can also be extremely annoying when used in excess. They can even lead to feelings of anxiety when the pressures of reciprocity become too strong.
He sent me three hearts and a frog, should I send him four hearts and two frogs or is that crazy? That’s the kind of thing she might be thinking, and after a while, it will drive her nuts. Use your emojis sparingly, and they will pack that much more power.
What do you think? Did I miss something? Let us know in a comment!