Smart phone technology is the best and worst thing to have ever rocked the dating world. On the plus side, it allows us to connect with each other quickly and easily. It tells us how to get to that first date coffee shop and how long it will take, it even lets us send naughty pics on the fly.
But for all the advantages our phones provide, we pay a price. In the olden days, we could convince ourselves that maybe our message didn’t get delivered. Now we have read notifications that strip away our blissful ignorance and leave us feeling exposed and insecure.
So why didn’t she text me back, you ask? Let’s look at some of the possibilities.
You Texted Her Twenty Times in an Hour
We’ve all been there. You meet someone great, the sparks fly. You start texting every day, just to share silly stuff, maybe do a bit of sexting, then she disappears.
You think, “Is it something I said? Is it something I didn’t say?” And you start clamouring for her attention. Chances are, she’s just busy with work, but you’re convinced that she’s rejecting you. The sad thing is, your smothering behaviour has probably driven her away and transformed your fears into a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You Sent Something Way Too Dirty
Just because technology makes it super easy to send dirty pictures and sexts, doesn’t mean you should. If she’s silent on the heels of a dick pic, chances are she’s embarrassed or grossed out.
The best thing you can do is wait a couple of days, then send her a light, humorous text, like “Hey, remember that time I sent you a picture of my penis?” Then send her a picture of a rooster and say, “This is the cock shot I meant to send.” If she still doesn’t respond, she’s either got no sense of humor, or you’ve really turned her off. Either way, let her go.
I alluded to this earlier, but it’s always good to remember. Sometimes people get busy with their lives and forget to answer texts. Not all of us are glued to our phones 24/7. Sadly for those of us who are, it can lead to some anxiety-inducing moments.
Don’t assume that her communication habits are the same as yours. If she’s someone who runs around doing stuff all day, you shouldn’t expect her to reply to your texts right away. If she never replies, or doesn’t apologize for letting things slide, she’s probably hoping you’ll take the hint and stop contacting her.
She’s Got Nothing to Say
Sometimes it’s as simple as that. It drives me nuts when someone I’m texting seemingly drops out of the conversation. I have a guy friend who does this all the time, but when I confronted him about it, he said that he just didn’t have anything else to say. It makes sense!
Unless you’ve asked her a question, she might assume the conversation is over. Not everyone feels the need to wrap things up in a neat and concise way. Is this kind of loose-jended exchange your definition of hell? If so, you might want to move on and find yourself a lady who craves closure just as much as you do.