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Is Chivalry Dead?

There’s a lot of debate amongst men and women whether chivalry is an archaic behaviour that no longer has a place in the dating game or if it’s still a respected yet dying ritual. After all, it is firstly defined as a medieval knightly system with its religious, moral, and social code, and secondly as a man’s courteous behaviour, esp. towards women.

Some women believe chivalry is sexist because the treatment is gender-based while others simply see it as good manners.

Feminists might say acts of chivalry are a way a man takes charge and puts himself in control, that by exhibiting this behaviour a man expects something in return. Do men only act chivalrous to women they want to fuck?

When a man helps me put on my cardigan or opens a door, I don’t see it as a display of dominance, I just see him as being polite and thoughtful. I don’t help guys on with their coats, but I do hold doors open for those around me, and not just men.

If a guy does have ulterior motives for his ‘courteous behaviour’, I think it is usually transparent and evident by other deciding factors such as location, demeanor, and mannerism. I don’t need a man to do anything that is considered chivalrous; I’m a strong, able, confident woman, but I am attracted to a man who acts like a gentleman.

I say to men: keep chivalry alive! If you run into a woman who is offended by it, well . . . she isn’t the right one for you.

The word chivalry isn’t even part of many young people’s vocabulary. So is this behaviour still deemed a worthy characteristic for men to possess, and do women still appreciated it?

How do you view chivalry? Is it part of your personality?

Tell us what you think! 2 Comments

  1. Tim

    June 28, 2013 at 12:17 pm

    I think chivalry just means to be courteous nowadays. No self-respecting man is going to ruin his coat for a high maintenance woman regardless if she is going to be giving him herself later on.

    Although always walking on the side of traffic whether in a parking lot or on a sidewalk is something a man can do to make her feel safe.

    Putting on her coat for her is a nice gesture, but generally today women aren’t dressed for such occasions. ie. “dressed up”

    Opening doors should be for anybody.

    Also helping the elderly should be something everybody does. These people paved the way for you. It’s a matter of respect to help them whether you’re male or female.

    This whole “chocolates” thing is a tad overdoing it. Think about it. You see a guy coming to your door with a rose and some expensive chocolates in his hands. Unless that woman is his girlfriend who has her monthly “friend”, she’s really not going to care.

    Now bringing a single rose us a nice gesture. That doesn’t happen too often though.

    • Jenny


      June 29, 2013 at 9:40 am

      Thanks for your thoughts, Tim. I like when a man walks on the side of traffic, though I don’t experience this very often.

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