How to Get Her Interested in a Threesome

Your dick gets hard just thinking about watching her take another guy’s cock while sucking yours. How many times are you going to have to rub one out, imagining sticking it to her bestie while she’s filled with her fingers? How can you get her interested in a threesome?

You’ve brought up having a threesome with your girlfriend. She yawned, and went back to Twitter. Or worse, she called you nasty names and never called you again.

Some women are simply not into threesomes. They relate best one at a time. Maybe they have been there, done that, and didn’t find it all that. Maybe they love threesomes, but have no desire to have one with you. Maybe they’re not adventurous at all and want a much more vanilla sex life.

Don’t waste your time, or hers. Respect her desires, even if you aren’t on the same page, and move on.

On the other hand, more often than not, a woman might enjoy a threesome under the right circumstances. Your approach is important—presentation is everything.

How to Get Her into Having a Threesome

Date women who are looking for similar adventures.

First of all, if you want hot threeways with your hookups, make sure your profile highlights the fact that you’re interested in exploring group sex, cuckolding, hotwifing, swinging, voyeurism—whatever it is that you want out of a threesome hookup. The best and easiest way into a threesome is by looking for the partners who are interested in making that happen for their own sake.

If your profile implies you want one-on-one commitments or vanilla arrangements, the chances that the woman you meet is looking to bang you and a friend tonight are slim.

Read: Tips for Single Men Looking for a Threesome

Of course, married couples have threesomes and wild sex too, all the time. Having a long-term partner doesn’t mean the sex is always one on one—it means whatever the couple wants. Just make sure you communicate your interests openly, whether you’re hooking up casually or dating with longevity in mind.

Cultivate her interest in a threesome.

Your best bet for a possible threesome after finding a woman who’s into what you are, is to have her come up with the idea on her own.

It’s far more exciting, and empowering, for a woman if she is the one to suggest you both invite your squash partner over for a little hot-and-heavy back and forth. Or maybe she tells you her fantasies about her secretary, and before you know it, dreams come true.

Don’t ever yammer on about how hot her co-workers or sisters or martini friends are. If she asks, “Do you think Helena is hot?” look a little bored and then say, “Sure, if that’s someone’s thing, I guess she’s attractive enough. She doesn’t have your ass, though.” You get the idea.

Don’t whine, beg, cajole, plead, or pester.

If she has any idea how obsessed you are over the idea of a threesome, you’ll never get it. It’s better to appear less interested than you are. A woman doesn’t want to think that she herself is not enough, and that is how many women read a situation where the guy wants another woman to join the party.

Also, if you’re pestering and begging, she has probably already said no, and no means no.

Make sure her security and trust are strong.

Whether you are casual fuck buddies or married doesn’t matter—a woman who doesn’t feel secure in the relationship won’t want to share you.

Don’t act like she has to compete for her fair share of you. Position a threesome as an experience to have together, not something just for you. Don’t talk about the other woman (or man) all the time or make them more central or important than she is.

Have better one-on-one sex more often.

If you’re not able to cover the basics, she won’t want to give you something more. If she perceives that you aren’t excited by her, she won’t want to go further. If you think sex with her is boring, or you aren’t grateful, she won’t extend herself beyond. A threesome will only happen when she gets so horny she needs even more. It will only happen when you fuck her so good and want her so much that she wants to arouse you even more.

“Gee, he can barely get it up for me or make the time to go down on me, I guess I’ll invite my friend for a threesome,” said no woman, ever.

Don’t put down her desires when you talk about yours.

Don’t whine and wheedle, but do talk about your sexual fantasies. Don’t harass her if hers do not include threesomes or the idea of watching others, but exploring your desires together openly can initiate a conversation between trusting adults about what you’re both open to and what you want.

If you are having a casual sexual relationship, it’s important to be able to talk about sex to get the best sex possible. If you’re dating with potential for a relationship in mind, it’s even more important.

Don’t say, “God, I wish you would stop being such a prude and let me fuck your cousin Tina while you watch.” I can guarantee you’re going home alone! But you can say, “The idea of you being with another woman is really exciting for me. When you told me about the affair you had with that French girl, I was just blown away. I’d love to be part of something like that if you feel comfortable or have similar fantasies.”

Now you’ve put the ball in her court while affirming that SHE is the one turning you on.

When you’re ready to find a third, read Do Threesome Dating Sites Really Work?

Are you having threesomes with your girlfriend? Share your tips for making it happen!