There’s a lot of debate amongst men and women whether chivalry is an archaic behaviour that no longer has a place in the dating game or if it’s still a respected yet dying ritual. After all, it is firstly defined as a medieval knightly system with its religious, moral, and social code, and secondly as a man’s courteous behaviour, esp. towards women.
Some women believe chivalry is sexist because the treatment is gender-based while others simply see it as good manners.
Feminists might say acts of chivalry are a way a man takes charge and puts himself in control, that by exhibiting this behaviour a man expects something in return. Do men only act chivalrous to women they want to fuck?
When a man helps me put on my cardigan or opens a door, I don’t see it as a display of dominance, I just see him as being polite and thoughtful. I don’t help guys on with their coats, but I do hold doors open for those around me, and not just men.
If a guy does have ulterior motives for his ‘courteous behaviour’, I think it is usually transparent and evident by other deciding factors such as location, demeanor, and mannerism. I don’t need a man to do anything that is considered chivalrous; I’m a strong, able, confident woman, but I am attracted to a man who acts like a gentleman.
I say to men: keep chivalry alive! If you run into a woman who is offended by it, well . . . she isn’t the right one for you.
The word chivalry isn’t even part of many young people’s vocabulary. So is this behaviour still deemed a worthy characteristic for men to possess, and do women still appreciated it?
How do you view chivalry? Is it part of your personality?