Want to make your hot hookups even hotter? Kinky hookups and couples can explore a whole world of sensations together.
Here are some titillating ideas for curious and kinky couples alike.
Ideas and Tips for Kinky Sensation Play
Use your mind.
Surprise, surprise—the key to playing with physical sensations is to use your imagination, your intellect, your sense of humor, and your detective skills.
For ideas, you can watch kinky porn, Oprah, the news, and YouTube.
Also, keep your eyes open when you’re at the grocery store. This is an optimal place for inspiration!
Think ahead.
Did you ever freeze when asked a mundane question, like “What are your favorite Netflix binges?”
When there are a million answers, when something is totally free and open, it can be difficult to narrow it down on the spot and come up with anything.
So even though there are literally thousands of ideas for creating sensation for each other, you can feel useless when you’re in bed and she’s waiting… and waiting… and waiting.
If you think ahead, you won’t have to under pressure. When you’re remembering hot sex sessions together—or imagining them ahead of time—jot down sweet or spicy fantasies that come to mind. Maybe you’re picturing her squeezing your balls gently with increasing pressure, or maybe you see yourself snaking your tongue up her tailbone to her collarbone.
Review your list in a sexy solo session the day before your date, or gather up some useful prompts or objects like feathers, cords, paddles, and hairbrushes.
Take your time with sensation play.
You all know how much I love a quickie. I’m a big believer in doing it fast because… why not? Sure, you’re late for work, but ten minutes won’t make or break the traffic. Aspirin? Forget that. A five minute pounding can cure most of my headaches.
That said, quickies are no substitute for leisurely, creative, sensual, unhurried sexy sessions.
Sensation play isn’t a quick bite or a snap of a silk scarf against my thigh before you stick it in. Think of it as an extremely slow teasing session.
Close your eyes to feel more.
Our visual sense is one of our strongest in terms of processing information, and a huge key to our sexual pleasure. We love to see our partner’s face and body parts and lingerie and expressions.
You can switch that up by using a blindfold during sexy time with your kinky partner. If we can’t use our sense of sight, physical touch becomes more intense.
I love erotic tickling and long sensual strokes on my pussy until I’m half mad. It’s best if I’m blindfolded because I’m not distracted by all the other good stuff, and I don’t feel self-conscious about not making you center stage, for the time being.
Pay attention to the sensation subtleties.
Sex is about a lot more than the big bang. Maybe a finger wiggling in your ear isn’t exactly going to set off an explosion the way her strap-on ramming your butt hole would, but it’s all about exploring the spectrum.
Sensation play has a slow, sensual, meditative quality to it. It’s unhurried and not goal oriented. The goal is simply to experience diverse feelings, to pay attention to them, observe whether they are pleasant, irritating, intense, painful or arousing.
It can be hard to feel something as nuanced as a feather stroking your dick when you want her pussy wrapped tight around it.
Ultimately, expanding our ability to experience our nerves creates more tension, a wider range of pleasure, and long, tantric, mind-boggling orgasms. Good things come to those who wait!
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