Are you looking to inject a little fun into your relationship? Bondage is a great way to spice up a sex life that has become predictable and stale. And if you’re interested in bdsm experimentation, this is great place to start. You need three basic elements to begin: creativity, trust, and imagination.
1. Creativity
This is the fun part. Instead of spending a small fortune at sex shops for bondage gear, get creative and go on a scavenger hunt around your home. There are so many things that can be used for tying up and down your lover. Here are a few ideas to get you started – ropes, ties, scarves, nylons, cables, and belts. Once you’ve found an assortment of restraints, begin looking for sensory objects that you can tease and tantalize your partner with. Think texture and temperature.
2. Trust
This is absolutely necessary when practicing any form of bdsm. Beginners should have an established trust in the bedroom. I recommend talking about what you want to try and what you don’t want to try before things get started. A day or so before is best, so you don’t kill the mood. The bdsm community uses safe words to communicate during bondage play such as Green to keep things going, Yellow to slow down, and Red to Stop. Both partner should be willing to either be tied up or do the tying even if you both have a preference. This builds a deeper trust.
3. Imagination
You’ve got your ties. Check. You’ve got your trusted lover. Check. Now it’s time to fire up the imagination. Decide where this bondage experimentation is going to take place. The possibilities are endless. Most couples, especially bdsm beginners, like a little comfort. You may have to get creative if you don’t have a head or baseboard to tie your lover to, but I’m sure you’ll figure a way. What you do once your lover or you is tied up is, well . . . up to you. I like to add a little sensory play with things like wax, chocolate, brushes, and feathers. Blindfolds are a great addition to bondage, too!
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