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A: Dear Holly. Where can I find a man to have sex with my wife while I watch? – P

Q: A cuckold relationship doesn’t make sense to most monogamous couples, but it’s become a popular fetish in the BDSM community.

Cuckold definition:

noun: 1. the husband of an adulteress, often regarded as an object of derision.

verb: 2. (of a man) make (another man) a cuckold by having a sexual relationship with his wife.

Unlike the traditional definition of the term, in fetish usage a cuckold is complicit in his (or her) partner’s sexual “infidelity”; the wife who enjoys cuckolding her husband is frequently called a hotwife or a cuckoldress if the man is more submissive. – Wikipedia

I recommend using a niche dating site to find a man to watch having sex with your wife. Try LocalCuckold.com or BDSMdate.com. At these sites you will find other kinky individuals looking for a couple with your interests.

“Unlike the traditional definition of the term, in fetish usage a cuckold is complicit in his (or her) partner’s sexual “infidelity”; the wife who enjoys cuckolding her husband is frequently called a hotwife or a cuckoldress if the man is more submissive.”

It’s not something you want to try with your partner without a lot of serious discussion beforehand. It should be something you both want to explore.

Tips for Cuckold Relationships

Trust. It’s important that you have a strong relationship with your partner before you embark on a cuckold dynamic. Some couples may think this can fix a troubled marriage, but it rarely is a solution.

Loyalty. When both partners enter into this arrangement, it isn’t considered cheating, and neither partner should be looking at building a relationship with the chosen third. Choosing someone who isn’t known to either partner usually works out best.

Playfulness. If things get too serious, feelings of guilt or betrayal are likely to crop up. Most couples prefer to keep the mood light before, during, and after. Many cuckolds enjoy watching their partner in role playing scenarios.

Safety Issues. This includes choosing an appropriate third person, where you want the sexual activity to take place, and safe sex practice. These are things you can negotiate before anything actually happens. 

Would you ever consider a cuckold relationship?

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