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8 Kinky Sex Ideas to Try Tonight

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Looking for kinky sex ideas and need a little inspiration?

Most of us don’t dive head first into BDSM activities and practices. We instead dip our toe in the shallow end to see how it feels, before we wade into uncharted water.

And that’s what kink is all about.

Kinky sex isn’t necessarily about pain or humiliation or pushing your boundaries and limits. It can be, but it’s more about having an adventurous spirit and sense of playfulness in the bedroom, about having an open mind to your lover’s desires and fantasies and trying things out together for the first time.

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8 Kinky Sex Ideas to Try Tonight

Whether you’re hooking up with someone new or waiting for your spouse to come home from work, there are many ways to engage in kinky sex tonight. Here are some suggestions.

1. Be Her Sex Slave

I know this one’s at the top of my wish list, and many women I know. Being at her beck and call inside and outside the bedroom is going to score you huge points and probably a second or third hookup. If your natural role is dominant, it makes it even more kinky to see you naked in an apron, cooking for us, bending down to kiss our feet, obeying our every command.

2. Try some Kinky Roleplay

Role playing is a fun and safe kink for beginners.

You can discuss a scene that interests you both like doctor-patient or repairman-housewife roles. How far you take it with costumes, dialogue, and setting is up to you.

You can explore BDSM inside the role play by adding in bondage, spanking, sensory play, humiliation—everything goes well with role playing.

Read:  8 Kinky Role Play Ideas

3. Crack the Toy Chest

Easiest way to kink sex up? Add toys to the mix. Most women have a vibrator or dildo, or a whole lot more you don’t know about.

If you’re already in a relationship, go shopping for something new that you both haven’t tried. I love browsing toys with a lover—it’s fun and sexy and helps to build the anticipation of what you’re going to do when you get home. And you can always order online if you are shy about being in a sex store.

4. Add Anal to the Mix

Everyone thinks about anal, but not as many people are willing to try it because of the hygiene factor. It’s really not that big a deal, and the feeling the giver and receiver get is worth taking the plunge

It doesn’t have to be straight-up anal either—she may want to try double penetration, or you may want her to use the strap-on she’s been dying to try.

Read: 5 Times when a Strap-On Is the Answer

5. Play Truth Dare

We all have fantasies, but we don’t always share them for fear of being judged or worse, dumped. Even the playing field by making the sharing fun. Take turns with Truth Dare by sharing fantasies or daring the other to do something kinky. It’s a wonderful way to break the kink ice. Or play Never Have I Ever to get the kink ball rolling.

6. Explore Edging

This is an easy way to add a pinch of kink to your sex. Edging, or orgasm denial, can be taken as far as you both want. If you are fingering or giving oral, stop just short of her orgasm. If she is pleasuring you, she can bring you to the brink as many times as you can stand. Having the receiver tied up adds just that little bit extra to the power exchange dynamic.

Read: 8 Orgasm Denial Games and Ways to Play

7. Put Your Kink of Display

This is for the exhibitionists out there who want to share their kink or at the least risk putting it out there. Maybe you want to make out in the corner of the club, seeing how far you can go. Or you may want to have sex on the beach while you’re on vacation. Or masturbate on the rooftop of your condo. Imagination can take you far with this kind of kinky sex.

8. Visit a Kinky Sex Club

A safer, and possibly warmer, place to enjoy sex in public is in a sex club. There will be rules about where and when and what you can do, but most clubs allow full-on sex that other patrons can enjoy watching if that’s your thing.

Maybe you just want to watch others, get so turned on, that the kinky sex you have when you get home is explosive. And there’s always the chance you’ll meet a sexy single you and yours can take home for a kinky threesome, or another couple for a foursome!

Read: 4 Dating Sites for Kinky Couples

What’s your kinky sex idea for tonight? Dare to share!

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