As someone who fell in love with role playing just a few years ago, I’ve come to realize that a little planning goes a long way. This is true of most things, but when it comes to enhancing your sex life, it sure is worth it! Some people feel comfortable getting kinky on a hookup, especially if they met on a site like BDSMdate.com, where wild desires are easier to express to a new partner. I like to get to know a someone a little between the sheets before showing him my kinkier side.
My first few experiences with role playing were very spontaneous. Sex would already be in motion when I’d suddenly go into character, playing a teenage girl who was visiting her teacher’s house after school, or a secretary who was late handing in important files to her boss. My partners’ loved the surprise and played along. Although I usually play the submissive in my role plays, I’m not hardcore BDSM and always emphasize the fun in kinky exploration.
I really enjoy the acting part of role playing and am able to stay in character for hours if my lover is game. All you really need for this kinky activity is your imagination and a playful partner. BUT… if you want to have even more fun and go all out I’ll share some of my tips with you…
Props and Setting. Set the scene with whatever you have in your place. For a student/teacher role play you can use books, notepads, a computer, desk, chalkboard.
Accessories and Toys. Depending on how you envision the role play, extras are a great idea. If there’s an element of domination/submission you may want to have bondage gear or spanking toys on hand.
Costumes. I liked to play dress-up when I was a kid, and I still do! To play a schoolgirl I just wear a short plaid skirt and white blouse and put my hair in pigtails.
Background. I like to think about the characters a little beforehand, and sometimes I will even discuss this with my partner… things like how the characters know each other, what their history is, and their previous sexual experience.
Safeword. I always have a safe word in place if things get a little out of hand. It never has with me and it may not with you, but it’s always better to be safe than sorry when it comes to BDSM exploration.
Evaluate. I like to do this then next day, in order to keep things romantic and not get too serious after a session. Discuss with your lover what turned you on, what didn’t, and what you might want to try next – either continue to explore a particular theme or try something new
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What is your experience with role playing? Please share your thoughts and tips in the comments!
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