I’m one of these guys who endorses the fantasy that every woman is secretly (or not so secretly) bisexual, even if only from the waist up. And it turns out that being forthright about it has landed me some pretty awesome hookups, indeed. The trick is to orchestrate a safe and comfortable environment for your bi-willing lover.
I recently hosted such a soirée for a regular hookup who’d been hinting at dipping her toe in lesbian-action waters. For the record, I was able to take a shortcut, at least, on finding our 3rd-party bi contestant: a mutual friend of ours who’s always quite happy to make others’ fantasies come true.
To ease my first-timer into it, I followed these simple steps:
Determine the limits. It’s like having a sex party: it may sound like a free-for-all, but there’s usually always something we won’t do. In this case, my first-timer was willing to kiss, suck nipples, finger-bang pussy, eat ass, and even drink girlsquirt — but under no circumstances would she go muff-diving. Personally, I can’t understand why she’d put the brakes on something that seems much more harmless than drinking squirt, but, whatever, that was the condition, and we respected it. Besides, it left us with more than enough to work with, I assure you.
Make a list. It’s one thing to plan what you’re going to do, but it’s even better to have examples. Scour the interwebs for clips and stills of any role playing scenarios you’d like to try and make sure your newbie has time to study and fantasize about it all ahead of time. Watch how the pros do it. Better still, have those clips and stills ready, in the background, on hookup night.
Start talking early. Get the e-smut rolling before the big night. Keep the lines of communication open, blasting out dirty anticipatory emails that will work her up to the point of distraction. It’s good that she has a constant reminder of how she’ll soon be driving to taboo town.
Keep toys handy. Dildos are always good to have around. Remember: lesbians use toys, too. And they help to add a “cock dimension” that she’s more used to.
Cock on standby. You ain’t on holidays. Direct the girl-on-girl action all you want, but newbie loves cock first and foremost — so always let your cock somehow be part of the action, whether it’s getting sucked while the girls are scissoring, or maybe they’re simply jerking you off while they kiss. Either way: it’s a bi sexperience, not a lesbian sexperience with a guy watching.
It took a few weeks to make it happen, but when the night arrived, we were all prepped and gung-ho-er than ever! Newbie will never be the same: she came, she saw, she conquered, she came again.
And again.
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