Hookups are rarely planned. You either meet someone at a bar and before you know it you’re back at their place, or you chat online and start with a first date that leads to a hot hookup. So, what happens if you like to kink it up and hope you don’t have to wait forever before pulling out the handcuffs. I find it easier and easier to meet kinky partners, especially with the help of online dating.
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Let me share some tips I’ve gathered over the years from online dating experiences and hookups that will make your casual kinky sex better than ever.
Tips for Kinky Hookups
Discuss limits and boundaries early. This might be through sexy texts on a dating site, or over a glass of wine. It doesn’t have to be too serious. You can be flirty while sharing what you like and what you don’t find cool. Talking about this early will avoid any mood spoilers when the fun starts.
Go where the lady wants to go. This might mean her place, your place, or a hotel. It’s very important for a woman to be comfortable when exploring bdsm and kinky sex. She will be more apt to show you her wild side and try new things.
Be safe. Carry or have condoms on you for all kinky hookups. Make sure your date gets home safely at the end of the night… or morning! And choose a safe word to use when you or she wants the action to stop for any reason.
Keep expectations low. I give this advice for all first dates. It will help keep your nerves at bay and no matter what happens, you won’t be disappointed.
Don’t be shy. I used to keep my secret fantasies and kinky thoughts to myself. As I’ve gotten older, I’m much more comfortable about trying new things and sharing what I like, even if that means facing sexual rejection. You’ll find most lovers will be turned on and game to go with the flow.
Be honest. Let a woman know what kind of relationship you’re looking for, even if it’s just a one night stand. If you don’t want anything serious, let that out before you meet or on your dating profile. And only ask for her number or to see her again if you plan to call.
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