Everyone loves a threesome, right? Well… at least most everyone fantasizes about having a threesome. Making one come to fruition is another matter. Depending on your lifestyle, you may be one of the lucky ones, where spontaneous threesomes crop up here and there. If not you may find it easier to go online where you can find people who are also looking for group sex encounters.
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4 Tips for Threesome Beginners
1. Plan ahead as much as possible. Your first threesome should take place somewhere that you (and possibly your partner) are comfortable. That might be your home, or a hotel. Make sure you have what you think you’ll need, things like protection, maybe toys, lube, a change of clothes. It also helps to know what kind of experience each participant is looking for. Maybe one person only wants to watch. Maybe someone is looking for a kinky experience with bondage and role playing. Some things are best discussed beforehand, rather than in the heat of the moment.
2. Take your time. Stay in the Moment. Never look to porn if you’re wondering how a threesome really goes. It’s not the fast and furious scenes you watch online. It’s more likely to be a beautiful, meandering exploration of bodies and desires. Foreplay of all kinds is the way to go… kissing, massaging, caressing, sucking, licking, rubbing, whatever strikes your fancy. The arousal of three people all at the same time is so worth investing in. And don’t forget to make eye contact, as well as expressing your likes and dislikes. Communication is key with new lovers.
3. Don’t leave any one out for long. Balancing the attention is important. I was in a threesome once, where I felt left out at the end of the night. It left a bad taste and created a short-term rift with a friend. If you’re staying in the present, you should be able to tell how each person is doing. It’s okay if someone needs a time-out because it can get exhausting, but if you see someone on the edge of the bed or looking upset, bring them back in.
4. Respect everyone’s privacy. Having sex with more than one person is super exciting, and maybe something you want to tell the world about, but sexual privacy needs to be respected. If you had a great time, and hope to meet up with these same people, keep your exploits to yourself or between you and your partner. You may be very open sexually about sharing your wild experiences, but most of us like to keep these pursuits under wraps.
Threesomes take a little practice… but what’s not to like about this kind of learning.
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