Clearly, if you’ve read any of my previous posts over the years, you’ll know my opinion of 3sums: I lurve them!
Now it’s time to present the sometimes darker side of such festivities.
There are two women with whom I regularly hookup for 1-on-1. Because we also all know each other as friends, we’d decided it was about time for group fun. Things started out well… things ended otherwise.
I’m presenting the scenario here not as a deterrent, but as a potential red flag of how playing with friends can unexpectedly fall off the rails.
I thought that was our thing! Jealousy soon began to rear its ugly head. If one party recognized a certain “move” normally associated with the 1-on-1 play, the room would develop a stench of betrayal. If one party offered up a “move” that was off-the-charts, the other would feel inadequate. If one party was, at any given time, getting all the attention, the other would take it personally. Yucky all round.
I’m starting to feel weird. I soon tasted awkwardness. The friendships, within the new context, began to feel at risk. Eye-contact was avoided and talking — even the smutspeak — became less and less. It was like we were watching relationships end, thrust by feel-good thrust.
Me! — No, Me! The competition between them threw me. After all, I thought I was generously offering myself for whomever’s taking. Made no difference: someone always seemed to feel like second-banana. At one point, one of the girls even stole my cock right out of the other’s hole and said, “My turn.” (I confess I did get a positive charge out of that, but chose not to admit it at the time…)
Fallout. This is worth noting: everyone had about a billion orgasms throughout the session. Sadly, it didn’t change the fact that the takeaway was not satisfaction but upset. I subsequently learned that every time I was out of the room (refilling water glasses, using the washroom, checking voicemail) they sat in a funereal silence (these longtime friends!). Since then, each has been contacting me privately — and aggressively — to hook up again — privately — as though looking for an opportunity to convince me that they’re better than the other. Neither one has discussed the threesome except with me: with each other they seem to be pretending it never happened.
It’s easy to say that the lesson here is: Don’t Have 3sums with Friends. I don’t agree. I’ve had plenty of successful group action with other friends. But it requires a healthy, positive attitude. They just aren’t for everyone.
Lesson learned.
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