Q: Dear Holly. So, it’s a new year, and I always make a list of things I’d like to try. This year I actually included some sex-themed items that I’ve only fantasized about. Top of my list is a threesome. Problem is I don’t even have a girlfriend right now. I am open to an MMF threesome, as I have always been bi-curious. Where do I start? – Sam
A: Hi Sam. I always encourage readers and friends to go after their dreams when it comes to sex. Exploring our desires is healthy and so much fun with the right partners.
Did you know that the top male fantasy is the almighty threesome? This means you are not alone, and that there are many others looking. Group sex is also something many women love to experiment with. What woman wouldn’t want two men fawning over her and bringing her to orgasm. I’ve tried it a few times, with explosive results.
You are unlikely to meet two lovely ladies or even a couple with an open-door policy at your local down the street, so try these tips to find the threesome you desire:
Join a niche dating site. Online dating has gone way beyond the mainstream with sites catering to all kinds of relationships and casual hookups. Check out FindaThreesome.com or CouplesDating.com to find interested singles and couples.
Visit a sex club. If you live in a metropolitan area, there are sex clubs nearby. If you’re not sure where, go online and start surfing. These clubs are for uninhibited folks who are open to sex with people they’ve just met. They are also very good places to meet women and men who would be into regular threesome arrangements.
Attend a fetish party. You don’t have to be deep into BDSM, just a little kinky. These are popular in the LGBTQ community, so if you’re open to all kinds of group sex experiences including the MMF threesome, then you will have more chances of making it happen at one of these events.
Explore polyamory. If you aren’t already in the know about this popular lifestyle, check out PolyamoryToday.com for information, tips and stories, or join PolyamoryDate.com to find couples looking for a third.
Good luck with making your threesome fantasy come true in the new year!
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