Threesomes: Be the Chosen One

Threesomes are for special occasions. I have to be in a particular mood, feeling especially extrovert, and be ready to share a little love with a stranger. But only one stranger because when I’m looking for a 3some, I know who to call. My pal Trudy is my go-to-gal for all group sex adventures. We’ve known each other a long time, so we have the comfortability needed to engage in good lovin’ with each other and “the chosen one”. I’m not bi, but I guess I was bi-curious years ago when I first fooled around with Trudy. Now we only make out when we’re with a man, more for his pleasure than our own.

So how does this usually go down? In the past, we always went bar hopping to find our third. It’s only been recently that we first tried to find a willing partner online. I still prefer the spontaneity of meeting someone in person and having that immediate interaction, but I’ll keep trying the online shopping for a third to be sure.

I thought I’d share with Hookup Land readers what Trudy and I look for when we look for a guy to join us in sexual hijinks. It might help you when you’re out with the guys and meet a bunch of women (or maybe just two) looking for more than a little one-on-one hookup action. I’ll also let you know how to make your appearance in a menage-a-trois a memorable one because who doesn’t like a callback?

Threesome Potential

• act unassuming (like you’re not expecting to hookup)
• flirt innocently, not desperately
• be funny, we love a man who makes us laugh
• go deep in conversation (small talk bores, intelligence impresses)
• be unique in your appearance (have your own style)

Making it Memorable

• be open to new things (positions, toys, kink)
• let the women guide the action
• aim to please both women equally even if you have a fave
• don’t ask for phone numbers, but offer yours if you had fun
• don’t overstay your welcome if you’re at her place

What’s your threesome experience? Do these trysts happen spontaneously, or is there a lot of careful planning involved? I would also love to hear tips about finding threesomes online.